Sogdiana, husband. A couple from Russia won a prize at the World Tango Championship in Argentina Sogdian nationality
“I don’t record myself as a nun”
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The singer SOGDIANA was born in the East, but she is a Slav by blood. Fragile in appearance, she is incredibly strong inside. She cannot imagine life without a stage, but she can leave it for the sake of her children. Leaving her career for a while, the singer disappeared from sight. Now Sogdiana has returned and is again storming the musical Olympus.
H I can not ask you about the unusual andbeautiful name - Sogdiana. Is that a stage name?
My real name is Oksana. I like it, but it is for relatives, close people. On stage, I didn’t imagine myself with him, so I began to look for a stage name. However, everything that came to mind or someone suggested was ridiculous and ridiculous. Once I was preparing for a competition in Italy, where I went as a singer from Uzbekistan. Collected documents, filled out various questionnaires. And one person who helped me with this said: “Take for yourself the pseudonym Sogdiana. How good it sounds!” I liked it too: straight to the point! Moreover, Sogdiana is a historical region, which is located on the territory of modern Uzbekistan and Tajikistan. That is, this name indicated where I came from. This is how my image of an oriental girl, a singer, developed. But my parents are not Uzbeks. In Soviet times, they came to Tashkent to work.
If you are in character now, I will call you Sogdiana. You have already conquered Moscow once - when you got to the "Star Factory". Was it more difficult then or now, when you return to the stage after a break?
Then, in 2006, the Russian show business was absolutely incomprehensible to me, I did not understand it at all. Although by that time I was a fairly successful singer in Uzbekistan, I already had experience of participating and winning various competitions in many countries. A lot of singers from Tashkent went to the New Wave contest, I also really wanted to get there. I was twice in Moscow for an audition, but I was terribly worried and did not pass the selection. Although I already had the song “Heart-Magnet” then, which later became a hit. I really believed in this song, I knew, I felt that it would play an important role in my life. But when I was about to go to the Star Factory, I didn’t even think that I could go there - it seemed to me that this was from the realm of fantasy. However, I am a desperate person, I borrowed money and went to the casting. It was morally difficult to see huge queues of people wishing to get on the project. For days on end, some roulades sounded everywhere. You come - they sing there, they sing here, in whole groups, one by one. From this singing you get tired terribly. And you still need to get together and perform yourself. And you know, it was a complete surprise for me that I went through all the tours. Then, I remember, my adrenaline went through the roof! In addition, at that moment I had no plans to move. But it happened. After the "Factory" I have already recorded songs and stayed in Moscow. All was good. But I had to take a break. Now it's easier to come back, because the viewer already knows me. We shot a video for the new song "Lightning" - this is a very touching composition, where Arabic instruments sound. And I'm also recording songs for my new album, which I hope will see the light of day soon.
I remember that the whole public was startled when you said that your ex-husband Ram took and took away his little son Arjun.
It was a very painful period. Then emotions overwhelmed both me and my ex-husband. As a result, I did not see my eldest son for two and a half years. Then, when the grievances between me and Ram passed, we stopped quarreling, we decided that we needed to improve relations for the sake of our child. We talked a lot about how to live in order for the boy to be well. So life turned out that we got divorced and nothing can be returned back, but why should a child suffer ?! And then, when we agreed on everything, I went to my son in Tashkent, where he lived with his dad. I felt that my baby needed me. I was going to stay there for a month, but it so happened that I lived in Tashkent for two and a half years. During this time, I quit my job. I don't regret it in any way. You see, these are incomparable things - a career and children. Arjun was then four years old. Naturally, he needed a mother. I wanted to give him that motherly warmth and care that he lacked when he was without me.
And now Arjun lives with you?
The son lives with his father in Tashkent. He goes to school there. But he often comes to Moscow. Just recently was here. Yes, and I go there with my youngest son. Now Ram and I don't have any enmity and we can see Arjun whenever we want. I left Tashkent when Arjun started going to school. At first, I took him to classes, picked him up in the evening after school from different sections - there was not much time for communication. The child was busy. And that's when I realized that I could return to the stage again.
And because of what, in fact, did you start a discord with your first husband?
We are very different people. No, he's a good person. But he is not creative at all. He does not like music, painting. He can say "Yes, it's beautiful", but for him art can never become the meaning of life. And he didn't want me to perform.
But after this painful divorce, another man appeared in your life and you became a mother for the second time.
My second husband, Bashir, is a wonderful person who supported me very much during that difficult period. But in 2011 we broke up, divorced in a civilized manner. My son Mika lives with me.
What happened this time?
I am such a person: I cannot live when there are some restrictions, prohibitions. And the second husband was very jealous of me - he was afraid of losing me. He assigned two guards to me. It's very hard. It seems, well, what's wrong with that? Think two guards. But it really bothered me, I didn’t like that they were following me. At some point, I realized that it was easier for me not to go anywhere, I stopped meeting friends. I remember reading many different horoscopes as a child. According to the sign of the zodiac, I am Aquarius, and so they wrote everywhere that Aquarians value their freedom very much. Then I did not understand the meaning of these words. I thought: “What does it mean to feel not free?” And when I was under the protection of two bodyguards, I fully felt how much I lack freedom. I'm not talking about the fact that I should be single or flirt right and left. No! I need such freedom so that I can safely move around the city - for example, to sit and talk with you and so that no one is watching me.
The main thing is that now you managed to establish relations with ex-husbands.
I am grateful to them both for the fact that they were and are in my life. It doesn't matter that we're not together now. It’s even good, because at a distance we are great at being friends. For some reason, when a man lives with me, he necessarily begins to fence me off from everyone, I become only his property. And it makes it hard for me to breathe. To be honest, I'm not very pleased that I already have two marriages behind me. Because before my eyes I had another example - my parents. They both met each other at the age of 20 and live together to this day: 45 years of marriage. And I was very worried at first, I was ashamed, embarrassed, worried about the question: “What will people say?” Then I realized that I was eating myself with these thoughts. If that's how it happened, then that's how it should have been. This is my life. And I just accepted her for who she is. And she began to feel happy. I have wonderful children, a wonderful job.
What do you think the ideal man should be?
After two marriages, I realized that I do not need my man to help me with something. I mean work. Usually this kind of unprofessional help only gets in the way. I can handle it myself, even if not immediately, even if it will not be easy. But it's okay, but I will work, I will feel free, no one will infringe on me either in my interests or in my work. And I also realized that you can not remake an adult. Therefore, if you accept it as such, then you make this choice, and that's it. Then it remains only to endure, but it is impossible to do this for a long time. I believe that I will meet my man, I don’t write myself down as a nun, I’m only 30 years old. But I need a man who will be comfortable with.
Sogdiana, how do your main men, your sons, react to the fact that their mother is a singer?
They like it when I sing. Sometimes they watch some programs and say: “Why aren't you there? Why aren't you performing?" I'm glad they want to see me on stage. The eldest, Arjun, is so serious at the age of seven. He said he would be a doctor. And the youngest, Mika, he is five, behaves like a young star. ( Laughs.) I directly remember myself in childhood, when I dreamed about the stage, about the audience. We recently went to the equestrian sports complex, and there are many, many interesting things there, including an open stage in the form of a semicircle. And he climbed on it and began to dance to the music. We were with relatives who began to applaud him, and he bowed like an artist.
And that's how you acted as a kid, right?
I had a blue dream - to become a ballerina. Prevented high growth. Mom said: "Your partner will not lift." But I was drawn to the stage. I sang and danced a lot. From the age of seven she performed at home concerts. Then I went to a music school in Tashkent, where there was a very strict selection. I was accepted, and I studied piano. I started to go to competitions, but I always had some kind of inner uncertainty about whether I was doing it. And having moved to a new music school, where there was pop art, I began to sing with pleasure. By the 11th grade, when it was time to choose where to enter, there were no questions: of course, to the conservatory. However, I thought: vocals or piano. I remember that my piano teacher was very jealous of me for singing because she wanted me to become a pianist. And my mother was shocked when I said that I decided to enter the vocals. She didn't think it was serious, I guess. But I made my choice. And I will always give my children the opportunity to decide for themselves and do as they see fit.
So you are a very loyal mother?
I think I'm not strict. Although anything can happen. You can not go on about children when they are capricious. I try to be fair. I am affectionate, gentle, kind. I love my children. Now I am thinking: everything that I had to go through - and it was not an easy path - I am ready to repeat, knowing that I will have such wonderful children.
Even on the eve of the new 2010, the singer said in an interview with 7D: “I am waiting for a miracle. My only wish is to see my son Arjun as soon as possible.” And finally, the long-awaited meeting with the child, whom his father Ram took to his homeland in Delhi a year and eight months ago, took place.
The singer broke up with her first husband two years ago. And then a truly nightmarish event happened - Ram separated Sogdiana from his one-year-old son. “For me, separation from Arjun was a tragedy. I had terrible depression. I cried all the time, my heart was breaking from unbearable pain, from impotence. For three months the pain did not recede at all, I could not find a place for myself, - Sogdiana recalled in an interview with 7D. - Many women ask me: “How did you survive all this? If I were you, I would probably die." Frankly, I had moments of complete despair, when I did not want to live. And yet, I think I was able to get through this test, because I did not reconcile myself. I never, not for one day, let my son go. I constantly thought about him, remembered and believed: anyway, sooner or later we will be together. I didn’t even allow such a thought that we broke up forever ... ”- says the singer.
At first, Arjun lived in his father's homeland in India, and then they moved to Tashkent, where Ram has been doing business for the past 15 years.
Photo: Photo from a family album
There, by the way, the former spouses met - the singer was born and raised in Uzbekistan ... This summer, Sogdiana nevertheless convinced her ex-husband to sign a settlement agreement. They agreed that the boy's permanent place of residence would be with his father, in Tashkent. And regarding the upbringing of the child, the parents decided that they would deal with him together, in turn: for some time he would live with his father, for some time with his mother. “Thank God, now we are both ready to do everything for the good of our son. Previously, Ram, apparently, was afraid: since he forcibly took my child from me, then I would also try to act in a similar way.
But over time, I became convinced that I am not an enemy to my son, in no case do I want to create a stressful situation for him, to subject him to new experiences. Fortunately, time smooths everything out. Our grievances, misunderstandings - everything has passed, everything has been forgotten. And now we have come to a consensus that Arjun is my child, and we will communicate with him as much as we want. Most importantly, Ram realized that our son really needs a mother, no one can replace her, ”says the singer.
After the necessary papers were signed, Sogdiana began to think about how best to meet with Arjun so as not to hurt his psyche too much. Since she was told that the boy (he will soon be three years old) is very impressionable, vulnerable by nature, the singer decided that their meeting should take place at his home, on his territory, in a familiar environment for the baby.
Sogdiana could not abruptly break away from Moscow to Tashkent - her youngest son from her second marriage, Mikail, is still very small, she feeds him with breast milk. And then Bashir's husband (they got married a year ago) said: “Drive calmly, don't worry. And we will be waiting for your return. Just don't worry too much so that Arjun doesn't feel your inner trembling." “Of course, I tried very hard to cope with the excitement, but nothing worked for me. While I was flying to Tashkent, everyone imagined our meeting, and I could not believe that very soon I would see my son. I was shaking from the inside, I was tense, compressed, like a spring. I was terribly afraid that Arjuna would not recognize me, would get scared, burst into tears, and would not come to me.
I thought how I would be able to survive this, what would happen to my heart, which was already fluttering wildly in my chest ... When the nanny opened the door for me, and Arjun was standing next to her on the threshold, I could not utter a word. She just stared at him without looking away. And the nanny asked: “Oh, Arjun, who came to you?” "Mom," he replied calmly. And it let me go a little...
I did not immediately pounce on my son with kisses, I was afraid to scare him. I waited for him to get used to me a little and come by himself. He took me to his room, began to sort out the gifts that I brought him, show me my toys. He walked around, looking carefully. And when I asked to ride me in his big car, he said: “No, I won’t ride.” Trying to strike up a conversation, I said: “Oh, what a pity. Mom will be upset and will cry. And then Arjuna suddenly made frightened eyes, ran up to me, hugged me, began to regret - apparently so that I would not be upset.
Sogdiana (real name - Oksana Nechitailo) is one of the few pupils of "" who has not been forgotten. Evidence of her relevance are the Golden Gramophone awards, the titles of People's Artist of the Chechen Republic and Honored Artist of Ingushetia, and constant participation in popular musical events covering the post-Soviet space.
Childhood and youth
The performer was born in Tashkent in February 1984. Despite the pronounced Asian features, Sogdiana is Ukrainian by nationality. The family came to Uzbekistan thanks to a military grandfather.
The singer's parents had nothing to do with art. Father Vladimir Nechitailo worked as an engineer at a compressor plant, mother Larisa Fedorinskaya worked as a dispatcher at a car depot. The couple raised two children - Oksana and Sergey, a brother 12 years older.
Love for singing was instilled in Sogdiana by her beloved grandmother, who at one time sang in the church choir. The girl mastered the basics of playing the piano at a special school at the conservatory, at the age of 14 she became a laureate of the republican piano competition. In addition to academic music, Oksana was attracted to pop singing. In 1999, she was the winner of the SADO-99 popular song contest among professional performers.
After graduating from school, Nechitailo entered the Uzbek State Conservatory, in the pop department. And immediately a new peak of the musical Olympus was taken - Oksana won the Republican competition of modern song "Melodies of my land", and a year later she stormed the stage of the international competition in St. Petersburg "The Way to the Stars", where she also became a laureate.
This was followed by festivals in Bulgaria and Italy, from where the girl also brought prize figurines.
Music
In 2001, 17-year-old Sogdiana recorded her debut album Mening Kunglim (My Soul), which included songs in Russian, Uzbek and English. In their native Uzbekistan, they started talking about a new rising star.
After 2 years, the singer was awarded the first award - the state youth award of the country "Nihol" ("Rostok"). In 2005, Oksana Nechitailo presented the disc “My Prince ... Will Come Anyway!”, Which included “My Prince”, “Don't Hope”, “What Should I Do”, “Don't Come” and “Magnet Heart”, recorded a year earlier.
Then the girl managed to star in the film "Khoja Nasreddin". The first film role brought incredible success. But, having reached, it would seem, the peak of popularity in the republic, the artist realized that she needed to go further. First of all, Oksana came up with a stage name for herself and became Sogdiana. This was the name of the ancient rich state, which, according to legend, was located on the territory of modern Uzbekistan. According to scientists, that country is the cradle of civilization.
In 2006, Sogdiana became a contestant at the Star Factory. This TV show revealed the name of the artist to the Russians. And "Heart-Magnet" turned into a business card of the Uzbek star, entered the top 5 rating of the best hits of the year and brought the first "Golden Gramophone". The girl received the second same award for the song "Blue Sky". For the third time, Sogdiana became the winner of the Golden Gramophone in 2008 with the song "Catch the Wind."
In 2011, the discography was replenished with the album "Eden", which included the songs "East of Eden", "With or Without You", "Remember Me", "Sky in Diamonds". In the same year, Sogdiana played in a film named after her and filmed according to a script written especially for her.
In 2014, the girl released a video for the hit "Lightning", performed the song "Epidemic" in Uzbek and Russian. Soon a new clip "Bird without a wing" appeared. Then the fans received a gift - the composition "No Impossible", which Sogdiana performed with.
By the way, she has few joint performances: from and during the "Factory", with the Tatar performer, Azerbaijani Khayyam Nisanov.
A duet with a colleague from Kazakhstan Abdulkarim claimed the Eurasian Music Awards. In October 2017, the premiere of the video for the hit "Indivisible" took place.
In 2018, the artist went to Baku, to her first festival "Heat", the peculiarity of which is that the winners of the award are chosen by the musicians themselves. IN " Instagram The singer posted the corresponding video. Sogdiana did not get awards, but the press noted her elegant and stylish outfits, which stand out against the general flashy background with their originality and femininity. In September, the singer presented a new album, "I choose you."
Personal life
The personal life of Sogdiana was not easy at first. In 2007, the singer met Indian Ram Govinda, who performed at his birthday party. The marriage produced a son, Arjun. But then the husband began to make scandals, forbade going on stage and chatting with friends. The couple divorced a year later.
For all 3 pregnancies, a mother of many children gained excess weight, sometimes up to 30 kg, which, with a height of 175 cm, seemed critical. But, according to Sogdiana, the pool and picky attitude to food helped to cope. And then, one concert is equivalent in terms of load to 3 classes in the gym. And the main recipe for losing weight is to love yourself and feel psychological comfort every day.
The artist does not plan to stay on maternity leave, because she is inspired by what is happening in life and wants to share this joy with the audience. New songs are ready. The composition "Catch", the clip for which Sogdiana shot 2 months before the birth, has already been presented to the public.
Discography
- 2001 - "My soul"
- 2005 - “My prince ... He will come anyway!”
- 2008 - "Heart-magnet"
- 2011 - "Eden"
- 2018 - "I choose you"
Once upon a time, the country of Sogdiana flourished on the territory of modern Uzbekistan. It was so beautiful, rich and fertile that some scholars call it one of the cradles of civilization. And the talented girl, who sang well and loved the country in which she was born and raised with all her heart, decided to take the stage name of Sogdiana. The biography of the now popular singer is of interest to many fans of her work today. In what family was she born, what path did she go through? What is she, the singer Sogdiana?
Biography: Oksana Vladimirovna Nechitailo
The future pop singer was born in Tashkent (Uzbekistan) on February 17, 1984. Oksana's parents had nothing to do with the stage (and music in general). Mom is a doctor by education, father is an engineer. Only my grandmother sang in the church choir for a while. But little Oksana showed stage talent from an early age - she arranged concerts for relatives and friends. Parents decided to develop the makings of their daughter and sent her to the music school. Gliera. After 11 years, Oksana graduated from it (piano class). The enthusiasm of those around her and even the predictions about her great future in music did not bring her satisfaction, and then she decided to study the vocals of Sogdiana.
Biography: early career
The young performer took part in all possible music competitions, both national and international. Almost always, at the end of the project, she could boast of an honorary laureate diploma. But she wanted more, and she started recording her first compositions. The world saw the debut album of Sogdiana in 2001. 2003 was the year of national recognition in her native country, she received a prestigious award, which was awarded to the most talented young performers of Uzbekistan, the Nihol State Prize. In 2004, real hits appeared in her repertoire, and the singer Sogdiana quickly became popular.
Biography: participation in the "Star Factory"
In 2006, the young performer was invited to become a member of the famous pop show "Star Factory-6". The producer of the singer was Viktor Drobysh. Sogdiana did not become the winner, but for a long time she was remembered by everyone for her bright appearance, sincerity, bewitching look and, of course, charisma. One of the journalists said that Sogdiana is a combination of a brilliant mind, amazing beauty and unsurpassed talent all rolled into one. The song "Heart-Magnet" became a hit, and in 2006 the singer received the Golden Gramophone award for her performance. After the "Factory", along with other participants, Sogdiana went on tour.
The biography of the artist is also rich in acting work. At a time when the singer was gathering full houses in concert halls, cinemas presented the audience with two films with her participation: "Sogdiana" and "Khoja Nasreddin". In 2008, the first Russian album of the performer called "Heart-magnet" was released.
Sogdiana: biography
The singer's nationality is Ukrainian, but she grew up in Uzbekistan, as Sogdiana's parents moved there before her birth.
The singer has been married twice. The first marriage with the Indian Ram was short-lived. Son Arjun (born 2007) now lives with ex-husband of Sogdiana. Now the artist's husband is businessman Bashir Kushtov, together they are raising their 3-year-old son Mikail. He also plans to win back his eldest son Sogdian from her husband and soon take him to her.
Sogdiana - a young and talented singer, actress, originally from sunny Uzbekistan, was born on February 17, 1984 in Tashkent.
Childhood
You should not try to look for Uzbek features in the face of the singer - they are not there and cannot be. There are no eastern roots in her family. And fate accidentally brought them to Uzbekistan - after all, grandfather was a regular officer, and he was simply seconded there with his family. But fate so happened that they decided to stay there forever.
And the girl's exotic name is just a stage name. According to her passport, she is Oksana, and that is what her relatives call her. Oksana's parents have nothing to do with art, but her grandmother could well have inherited musical abilities for her granddaughter - she had a beautiful voice and was a soloist in the church choir.
Grandmother was the first to notice that the girl had excellent hearing and good vocal abilities and insisted on developing her in this direction. Parents did not argue, believing that any creativity is good for a child, and sent the baby to a music school. At the audition, it turned out that the grandmother was not mistaken - the girl was immediately accepted.
She received her secondary education at a special school at the conservatory, where all conditions were created for the development of gifted children. In addition, the girl herself insisted that she also wanted to dance. I had to connect my older brother to the educational process, who took her to a choreographic studio.
Carier start
By the time she graduated from school, no one in the family had any doubts that Oksana would continue to develop in the direction she had chosen since childhood. She entered the conservatory to study pop vocals and dreamed of becoming a famous singer, touring a lot and seeing the whole world.
But since her family did not have any connections in the music world, and the big money needed for quick promotion, too, the girl herself did everything possible to become at least recognizable. She took an active part in all city cultural events and even arranged whole concerts for free.
Such efforts were not in vain - soon they started talking about Oksana not only in Tashkent. She began to be invited to field performances, which her father tried to organize, who voluntarily assumed the duties of an administrator. So the first money began to be earned, which immediately went to stage costumes and further promotion of the singer - she did not have a professional producer.
In parallel, Oksana constantly traveled to various competitions and festivals, where she often received awards of various levels. The girl won her first Grand Prix in her native Tashkent at the television festival of professional pop singers.
And two years later, she finally managed to record her debut song disc, which included several of the best songs. Moreover, the girl performed the songs in three languages.
The album brought her popularity in Uzbekistan and allowed her to expand her touring geography. Moreover, the appearance of the girl did not leave filmmakers indifferent, and she was invited to star in a film about Khoja Nasreddin.
The well-played role of an oriental beauty only added to her popularity. In 2005 Oksana released her second song album and took the oriental stage name Sogdiana.
Star Factory
Having decided that she already has enough professional experience to adequately compete in the most difficult competitions, Sogdiana decides to go to the casting for the next season of the Star Factory. Moreover, she is well aware that only good vocals will not be enough to conquer the stellar jury, she relies on oriental charm and is not mistaken.
Sogdiana easily passes all the preliminary rounds and gets into the main lineup of participants who will fight for a place in the final. Sogdiana did not win the competition and did not even reach the final. But the song “Heart-Magnet”, brilliantly performed live, instantly made her famous throughout the country. Moreover, the composition brought her one of the most prestigious Russian music awards - the Golden Gramophone.
After the end of the tour of the manufacturers, stipulated by the contract, Sogdiana records another disc and continues her solo career. She again becomes the main character of the film, where, under her own name, she talks about the fate of a Tajik girl who came to conquer Moscow. To date, the singer's discography includes four albums.
Personal life
The singer's personal life is far from being as successful as her stage path. Her first marriage to Indian-born businessman Ram Govind ended in failure shortly after the birth of her son. Although at the time when the union was concluded, Sogdiana was already quite popular, and her husband, of course, knew about it, he categorically demanded that she stop speaking and stay at home.
With kids
After Sogdiana flatly refused to fulfill her husband's demands, he filed for divorce, and took his son to India without her consent. Sogdiana was in a severe depression for about three years and practically did not perform. She came to her senses only when her ex-husband returned to Tashkent, and she was again able to see her son.
Soon she decided on a second marriage with the president of the hockey club. Her husband, Bashir Kushtov, at first strongly supported the work of Sogdiana, but after the birth of their joint son, just like the first husband, he began to insist on ending her career. And another divorce followed. True, in this case the child was not injured and continues to see his father. Currently, the singer's heart is free.
