We build a happy life. How to forget the past

The past is forgotten, the future is closed, the present is granted
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To fully live in the present, the past must be left behind.

You probably yourself understand that it is important to stop dwelling on failures and old problems, regret your mistakes, get angry at past offenders ...

In general, remove everything that pulls you back - and happily move forward ...

Today we will talk about how to stop living in the past.

Looking only to the past is like walking backwards on the road: you can't see anything but your old footprints. The goal may sometimes not be realized just because, in fact, you go to it just out of an old habit, and you yourself have long outgrown it and lost interest in it.

7 practices for not judging yourself for your past life

1. Make the decision to work on how to stop living in the past.

By itself, the "cure" will not happen - you must make a choice: "" and begin to act. It’s good that now you don’t need to “cut the tail in parts”, picking and working through each injury for years.

In conditions modern energy healing is complex.

2. Send your past love and forgiveness

Continuing to berate yourself for mistakes, "wrong choices" and actions is a sure way to live in the past all your life.

Just accept that in the past you did what you could, based on your "then" knowledge, capabilities, level of awareness.

Without you, "the former" would not be you now. And in difficult moments in the past, you were very scared or sad you might experience confusion and uncertainty not feel any support.

Reveal to yourself in the past love and sympathy. Just remember yourself in one of the difficult moments and direct it there. the light of your love, caring attention. Say to yourself those words that were so needed at that moment.

Some scold themselves for having voluntarily or unwittingly hurt others; for having made the “wrong” decision at some point in their lives.
Others manage to condemn themselves even for allowing themselves to be mistreated in the past - they did not protect themselves from the offender, they did not leave the tyrant man in time.

3. Heal your pain and injury

It is the old unhealed wounds that stir the soul and make us live in the past. Some are as fresh as if they happened yesterday.
You need to heal yourself. This - base action on the way to an easy and free life.

Especially for this, Alena Starovoitova developed (videos from it supplement this article).

4. Thank the past for wisdom

No matter how difficult the situation was, having passed it, you became better, wiser, stronger.

If any specific traumatic situations from the past are bothering you right now, do the technique "Pearls of Wisdom".

Think and write down a few points - what you this situation has taught, this act, this person, how your life has changed, what you realized and comprehended thanks to that incident.

What you write is the pearls of wisdom. Leave them to yourself, present. And the rest of the burden of that situation gratefully release. You took the most important thing from it.

5 more ways to find a pearl of wisdom in a traumatic event.

5. Forgive people from the past

Always keeping anger at offenders, you will never stop living in the past.
In fact, those people who hurt you "once" are no longer there. You have changed, they have changed. In fact, these are different people.

Those with whom you are angry or offended for the past are no longer them, they are theirs. psychological twins in your mind and memory. And you can always agree with your memory and consciousness.

An important note - if grievances from the past affect relationships with people from your present (family members, friends) - you need to work especially tactfully here, without violating their spiritual space.

In the article, you will learn how to reverse the polarity - move from hatred to love and forgive offenders.

6. Recognize and rewrite old scripts

The scenario is the behavior “on the knurled”, driving on the old rails. He registered in the subconscious and over and over again makes you step on the same rake.

Important such scenarios find and write. For this, there are special exercises. For example, at the master class, Alena suggested that the participants perform a bright creative action that “replaces the picture.” One of the participants performed a ritual: she melted the ice from the refrigerator, like the ice of a relationship.

You can come up with something of your own.

Scenarios are an automaton that clicks somewhere inside and makes you react and act in a pattern over and over again. The traumas of the past cannot simply be erased. But you can work through them consciously. And rewrite inefficient scenarios for more successful ones.

7. Focus on the present!

Just transfer your attention to the present, right at this moment. How are you dressed? What do you want right now? Is your body comfortable? What is your joy now? What do you value in your current life?

You will see how a lot of energy, joy and opportunities in your present!

Increased efficiency, perseverance, attention to detail, knowledge in areas that were previously inaccessible - all this came along with the new wave. And it began at the moment when another blockage of the old energy was cleared…

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Each of us has a past that, after many years, still affects our present. What we have already lived can make us inert people who are afraid to trust others. Everything that happened then still hinders the process of self-realization, hindering success in the future. The negative of the past, resentment and disappointment - all this often simply sucks energy out of a person, makes him lose faith in himself and his own strength. Over time, this begins to annoy more successful people.

Should we let go of the past?

Failures distract consciousness from setting life goals, do not allow us to move forward, limit our actions. How to be? How to say goodbye to the sad past that interferes with life? And if there is no way to forget, then how to direct your feelings and emotions in the right direction? How to live with this?

First of all, you need to understand that not all memories of the past need to be released. After all, what happened brought us not only pain and resentment. Life does not consist of only black stripes! Have you experienced moments of happiness and joy? Therefore, before trying to change your current state, you need to calmly analyze your past. Some psychological inventory should be made.

Remember once and for all - it is impossible to get rid of bad memories by constantly thinking about what happened to you. Start accepting everything that happened to you as a life experience. And only after that you will be able to move on without looking back. Unfortunately, girls often continue to treat failures and disappointments with annoyance, reproaching themselves for mistakes and mistakes. AND for a long time the fair sex cannot forget the grievances inflicted by someone, cultivating them in their souls and more and more blocking their way to the future.

If a person is constantly in this state, he is doomed to failure. You can't look optimistically ahead if you're always looking back. So not only for a short time to twist your neck or stumble, but also to fall into a deep hole, from which it is quite difficult to get out. Usually we don’t know how to forget past relationships, we don’t imagine how to say goodbye to grievances. It would seem something simpler - realize, analyze your mistakes and live on. However, many girls do not even try to change something. They do not suspect that they block the path to success for themselves.

In a word, in order to fully perceive the present, make the right plans and boldly step into the future, you need to remember one rule - forget the past, like an uninteresting and boring book. After all, we throw garbage out of the house, but do not store it? It would be strange to regret expired cheese or sour milk. We sigh, put it in a bag and go for new products. Of course, I would not want to buy expired sausage or sour cream. But we have already learned to separate the wheat from the chaff.

Learning to forget insults

Forgetting your negative past is not easy. It does not allow you to sleep at night, unexpectedly pops up in your memory at the most inopportune moment. It torments you with guilt and regrets that things could have been different. Could or not? What if you would have acted differently, and this would have led to more serious consequences?

Everything that fate has prepared for you, you had to go through. It helped to become wiser, more patient, more experienced. But even if you are to blame for what happened once, why grieve now? What was, was, it can't be fixed. Failures must be taken calmly, since it is impossible to forget the past, constantly regretting it.

Let's try to let go of our past and try to switch to events in the present. There are many ways to do this. And only by trial and error you will find the right option for you. Some need a change of scenery by going abroad, while others find it easier to burn their ex's belongings. The only thing you should understand is that without new impressions and without crazy antics, you will not be able to forget about troubles.

So let's get started. We take a pen and a piece of paper, remember some situations and moments from our life, then we try to look at them as if from the outside. At the same time, we try to be calm, not to react too emotionally to the memories.

Remember, our goal now is to close the doors to our negative past and direct energy towards the future. We concentrate and watch our memories, like the frames of a movie on a TV screen. We are not present in them! We just look and write down on a piece of paper the names of the people present in them. Our task is to get rid of memories in order to start living anew, and not to bring ourselves to tears.

We do this until our memories run out. At the same time, we do not strain, trying to remember what does not pop up in the memory in the first place. If it does not appear, then it is not essential for building our future. First of all, our consciousness provides the information that is especially important on this moment. Do not add anything extra to it. We take only what we are able to process without strain.

After you release past memories and write down the names on a piece of paper, calmly and detachedly look at the resulting list. Did you get many names? No big deal, because it doesn't matter. We just try not to feel emotions towards people who bear these names. Did Alexander hurt us? Well, well, she has already been experienced ... Did Elena once offend us? It was a long time ago and doesn't matter anymore. Did Tatyana betray once? Tatyana has not been in our lives for many years, so is this betrayal worth remembering?

Approximately the same way we consider each person behind this or that name. We do not sort people into good and bad. We do not condemn them, we do not criticize and do not praise, we do not evaluate. Unfortunately, erase the past, leaving it in your emotional world, it is forbidden. positive and negative sides we also do not try to evaluate the situations that have occurred in our life. After all, everything that happened to us before has shaped us in the present. It is in it that we now exist, and in the past we simply put things in order.

We consider the names in the list until our consciousness gets used to perceive them detachedly. This is the first step towards how you can forget the past. Now we must form a separate niche in our minds in which we will place our past.

Human memory is like a large warehouse where everything that once happened to us is stored. It is impossible to destroy it. But to hide everything in the farthest room of the memory-warehouse and then tightly close the door is easy. In a word, we need to isolate memories in a separate corner of consciousness and try to never go there again. For isolation, we mentally address immediately everyone who was marked on the list, without highlighting the individual and the connection between them.

How to forget your past and move on? Just imagine that you have a group of people in front of you, a kind of team where everyone works to the best of their ability. And each of them has their own role in which they performed in your life. We thank everyone for participating in our destiny, for the fact that we have gained a lot of experience. After all, all people are travelers following a certain route. For some time their paths intersect, one person interacts with another, then they diverge and go on.

We are grateful to everyone who met us. And it doesn't matter what kind of experience we got at the same time, good or bad. Both the positive and the negative of the past - all this is a value. It is the foundation of our future. And let our temporary life companions also have such a foundation. We will write a thank you note to them and wish them good luck on their journey.

We turn this way until we feel inner lightness. This means that we have been able to solve the problems of the past. And it turned from a heap of complex tasks into an ordinary life experience. And now we are trying to direct our energy in the right direction. We turn to ourselves with thoughts and set goals for ourselves. We plan only our own future, without affecting others, no matter how close they are to you.

It is better to think of other people as lucky, happy and healthy persons, without inscribing them in the situations you plan for yourself. Because the hope for the participation of others in personal destiny is nothing but violence against their will. And the free will of any person is inviolable.

In a word, even mentally one should behave correctly in relation to others. Forgetting past relationships is possible only with the understanding that in the creation of any situations there is always the free will of each participant. Attack on her is unacceptable. You can not plan your future, focusing on the participation of other people in it. Perhaps they will help us build it, but it is likely that this will not happen.

And what, hoping for someone's presence and not seeing this person one day nearby, get confused, not knowing where to move on? Is this the future we want for ourselves? Of course not. Therefore, we plan and organize only own destiny. Let other people enter it or, on the contrary, leave it, but only of their own free will.

After we have placed our past in the farthest corner of the memory warehouse and determined our plans for the future, we boldly move forward. You should not look back - the past is securely hidden and you will not see it anymore. Everything we need, we have already taken from it. And we don't need extra baggage on the way. Walk lightly. And more fun, because we have a goal ahead of us.

Self-hypnosis is one of the most effective ways to forget the past. Of course, not every one of us seeks to erase it from life. But if the memories are painful, then you need to get rid of them. Otherwise, they will interfere with building their own destiny.

If you find it too difficult to forget the past, contact the experts. They will help you understand the picture of what is happening. No need to carry the baggage of memories in new life. Everything that we experienced before, we have already experienced repeatedly in our memories. Each situation of the past is a brick in the foundation of our future. And it depends only on us.

Tatyana Vinogradova, Vedic psychologist, relationship expert

Anya survived brutal violence from his first school love, Andrey. He, as it turned out, started a relationship with her only to get into the "elite" to which Anya's family belonged. Laughed and quit. And now all men in her mind are rapists and sadists, they cannot be trusted. And she can no longer build a happy relationship.

A classmate greatly offended Nastya in the first grade, and this prevents her from building relationships with colleagues.

Styopa's anger at the unfair punishment of his father, who deprived him of financial support in his student years, prevents him from calling his father thirty years later and wishing him a happy birthday.

These hypothetical situations can be applied to everyone. Someone treated us badly, hurt us, offended or humiliated us, and we suffer to this day.

Why is this happening? Our minds are very fragile. It instantly absorbs all the negativity that can lurk in the subconscious and prevent us from building our lives. We were offended only once - but ALL of them were bad. A person looks at the world through the prism of his past and sees the present distorted sometimes beyond recognition.

Today we will work with these false beliefs and throw them away in order to experience inner freedom and live life to the fullest.

So get ready. Now we will work with one of your problems. To begin with, let's take something not the most difficult. (THIS IS IMPORTANT!) One small offense, misunderstanding, act. You can apply this algorithm multiple times. Each time, the exercise will become easier for you.

How to forget the past and accept it in just 6 steps:

• Accept the situation, act. Here it is and is. Happened. It happened. Even if 22 years have passed, accept it as if it happened right now. It is important for our subconscious. This a starting point process. Until you accept your situation, it will cast a shadow over your future. Often, at the moment of accepting the fact that has happened, a person feels powerlessness, or, conversely, relief. So the process has started.
• Stop looking for someone to blame. There is no one to blame in this world and you are not to blame either. No one is to blame. Not with anything. The situation was needed to obtain a certain life experience. When you are looking for someone to blame, you yourself are blocking your transition to more high level awareness. You voluntarily get stuck in the past, agreeing that the situation is unsolvable.
• Stop wondering "WHY?". Asking this question, we take the position of a victim, voluntarily drink the poison of pity, which stings us from the inside, irritating the past wound. Thus, a person arranges hell for himself right in this life, blaming the unfair Fate, God, parents for everything ... But irritation, shame, guilt, resentment and anger are his own reaction to a traumatic situation.
• Ask yourself the question: "WHY?". Why am I given this situation, this person, this lesson?

Life is a training virtual simulator with an individual program for everyone. The one who understood why THIS came into his life has already embarked on the path of healing.

• Do not skip previous steps. Only after going through ALL the previous stages, the psyche calms down and can begin to solve the problem. Before that, the inflamed consciousness twisted you and covered you with waves of anger and resentment. Now it's time to ask the question: HOW CAN I MINIMIZE THIS PROBLEM? WHAT CAN I LEARN IN THIS SITUATION? Right questions asked lead to the correct answers, individual for each. You are ready to see the value of the experience. You are experiencing a revelation and are approaching harmony with the Universe.
• Ask yourself one last important question. WHAT POSITIVE, GOOD WOULD NEVER HAPPEN IN MY LIFE IF NOT DID THIS BAD HAPPEN? Only now a person is ready to see the value of a life lesson, to experience sincere gratitude for what he previously considered his failure, mistake, guilt and other negativity. Learning the "whip" of suffering in this lesson is over, it's time to get the "carrots".

New ones are ahead of you life lessons and new gingerbread.

Unlived pain, unaccepted protest, a person puts into his own body - subtle and rough. Psychologists are well aware of this. I do not want to delve into the past, which poisons the present and the future. I want magic pills, and so that they pass immediately and heartache, and corporal.

Of course, you need courage to face the root cause of your pain, resentment, guilt face to face. Moreover, go through them and go out to joy healthy body and a harmonious psyche with a resource "in the hands" and gratitude in the heart. Those who are ready to work on themselves go exactly this way. So good luck!

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Laying out metaphorical cards

And finally, my favorite resource technique with metaphorical cards. Using my two decks "CreationPoem", text and "She and the Times", female.

Instruction:

1. Need: notepad, pen or voice recorder on the phone, 10-20 minutes of time, calm, secluded place.
2. Ask yourself a question about the topic you want to deal with today. To begin with, we take something unpleasant, but not too hurting. Let's practice on something simpler and easier. It is important!
3. To clarify and clarify this situation (lesson), select one card by intuition (hooked by something) from 10 cards of the first batch (text pictures from "Creation of the poem").

   

   

   

   

   

   

   

   

   

   

   Look carefully at the picture, read the text. Ask yourself "What is it for me?". The whole phrase in the picture, some part of it, or even one word may be important. Working with this concept, transforming it, go through the 6 steps above. Answer aloud for each step. The way your thoughts flow freely. All answers are correct. We are training.

4. When all 6 steps have been completed, ask yourself the question:“What is my resource now, what will give me strength, what will I rely on in the future?” What new opportunities have now opened up? As an answer to this question, again, by intuition (hooked by something) one card out of 10 cards of the second batch of “She and the Times” (female deck).