Do people go to the cemetery on Good Friday. When people ask questions to the priest, the Christian soul wakes up in them.
Probably, every person has at least one relative or friend who has already been buried. People always pay maximum attention to their loved ones. Even after the death of a person, there is a desire to visit his tomb and take care of his peace. But many do not know how to visit the cemetery correctly. There are days when it is possible, and even necessary, to go to the cemetery. And, on the contrary, when it is better not to visit the dead.
When can you visit the cemetery?
* on the day of the funeral;
*on the 3rd, 9th and 40th day after death;
*every year on the day of the death of a person;
*V memorial days- Monday and Tuesday of the week following Easter;
*Meat-fare Saturday preceding the week of Great Lent;
*2nd, 3rd and 4th Saturdays of Great Lent;
* Trinity Saturday - the day before the feast of the Holy Trinity;
* Dmitrov Saturday is the first Saturday in November.
When not to go to the cemetery:
* Orthodoxy does not welcome visiting the graves of relatives on such Christian holidays as Easter, the Annunciation and Christmas;
*The Trinity is not celebrated at the cemetery either. On Trinity they go to church;
* it is believed that you do not need to go to the churchyard after sunset;
*Women are not advised to visit the place of the dead during pregnancy or menstruation. But this is a personal choice of each of the fair sex.
Some sources report that it would be wrong to go to the tomb on the birthday of the deceased. You can just remember him with a kind word, in the circle of the family and loved ones of the deceased.
There are also some superstitions and rules of behavior on the churchyard.
How to behave in a cemetery:
If you have planned a trip to the cemetery, do not wear bright colors. Black or white would be best. You can also pick up things from your wardrobe in muted tones. Legs must be covered: wear pants or long skirt. Shoes must also be closed. It is desirable to cover the head with a headdress or throw on a scarf.
When they go to the cemetery, they behave calmly, without unnecessary emotions. Avoid laughing or crying out loud. Do not swear.
Don't spit or litter. And if you want out of need, find a suitable place for this outside the cemetery.
Upon arrival at the grave, a positive action will be to light a candle, to remember the deceased.
Do not drink or eat near the tombstone. Arrange memorial dinner Houses.
Do not step on the graves and do not jump over them.
You don’t need to touch other people’s graves, put things in order there, unless the relatives of the person buried there asked you to do so.
In the case when you dropped something on the dead earth, it is better not to pick up this thing. If the fallen item is very important to you, pick it up and put something in return (sweets, cookies, flowers).
Leaving the cemetery, do not turn around, and, moreover, do not return.
When you get home, wash your hands thoroughly (and it’s better to do it at the cemetery), be sure to wash off the cemetery soil from your shoes, and wash the tool that was used to clean the grave.
When to visit the cemetery, each person determines for himself. Of course, going to such places almost every day is not recommended. But don't forget about your loved ones either. Do as your heart tells you.
In a situation where you live far from the graves of your relatives or simply do not have the opportunity to visit them, but there is a desire to pay attention and remember, go to church and light a candle for the repose.
You need to know that such candles are not placed on the days of Holy Week and the days of Bright Week.
Also in the temple there is an opportunity to order a memorial service (prayer for the dead) or lithium (intensified prayer) from the priest. You can also pray yourself: read the Psalter or the rite of lithium performed by a layman.
Under any circumstances, remember your dead loved ones, and when you come to their graves, behave appropriately, because the cemetery is a sacred land, a resting place for the dead.
WHEN A CLOSE RELATIVE DIED. WHAT YOU NEED TO DO A WHOLE YEAR.
In the first seven days after the death of a person, do not take out of the houseno things.
On the 9th day after death, relatives go to the temple, order a memorial service, and lay a second memorial table at home.The family of the deceased did not sit at the first memorial table.
Now, on the contrary: a family and nine more people sat down at the table (three who washed the deceased, three who made a coffin, three who dug a hole).
IN modern conditions the number of invitees may vary because there are different public services, which provide the necessary ritual services: the deceased is dressed in the mortuary, the coffin can be bought at the ritual supplies store, the grave can also be prepared in advance. Therefore, there may be 3 - 6 - 9 invitees, or there may be no one.
On the 40th day after the death of a person, they arrange a third memorial table - “sarakavitsy”, at which the family of the deceased, relatives, relatives, friends, work colleagues are present. The church orders Sorokoust - forty liturgies.
From the day of the funeral until the 40th day, remembering the name of the deceased, we must pronounce the verbal formula-amulet for ourselves and all the living. At the same time, the same words are a symbolic wish for the deceased: "Earth rest in peace", thereby expressing wishes that his soul would be in paradise.
After the 40th day and over the next three years we will say a different formula-wish: "The kingdom of heaven to him." Thus, we wish the deceased an afterlife in paradise. These words should be addressed to any deceased, regardless of the circumstances of his life and death. At the same time, they are guided by the biblical commandment "Judge not, lest you be judged."
During the year following the death of a person, none of the family members has the moral right to take part in any festive celebration.
None of the members of the family of the deceased (including the second degree of relationship) could marry or marry during the period of mourning,
If a relative of the 1st or 2nd degree of kinship has died in the family and a year has not yet passed after his death, then such a family does not have the right to paint eggs red for Easter (they must be white or any other color - blue, black, green) and, accordingly, take part in the celebrations of Easter night.
After the death of the husband, the wife is forbidden for a year to wash anything on the day of the week on which the trouble happened.
For a year after death, everything in the house where the deceased lived remains in a state of rest or permanence: repairs cannot be made, furniture rearranged, nothing is given away or sold from the things of the deceased until the soul of the deceased reaches eternal rest.
During this year and all subsequent years, you can go to the cemetery only on Saturdays (except for 9, 40 days after death and church holidays of honoring ancestors, such as Radunitsa or Autumn Grandfathers). These are the days of commemoration of the dead recognized by the church. Try to convince your relatives that you should not constantly come to the grave to the deceased, thereby harming their health.
Whichever way you come to the cemetery, come back the same way.
Visit the cemetery before 12 noon.
Days of special commemoration of the departed throughout the year:
Meatless Saturday- Saturday in the ninth week before Easter;
- Saturday in the second week of Great Lent;
universal parent saturday - Saturday in the third week of Great Lent;
Universal Parent Saturday- Saturday in the fourth week of Great Lent;
Radunitsa- Tuesday in the second week after Easter;
Trinity Saturday- Saturday in the seventh week after Easter;
Dmitrievskaya Saturday- Saturday in the third week after the Intercession (14.10).
Exactly one year later after death, the family of the deceased celebrates a memorial meal (“please”) - the 4th, final memorial family and birth table. It must be remembered that the living cannot be congratulated on their birthday in advance, and the final memorial table should be arranged either exactly one year later, or 1-3 days earlier.
On this day, you need to go to the temple and order a memorial service for the deceased, go to the cemetery - visit the grave.
As soon as the last memorial meal is over, the family is again included in the traditional scheme of festive regulations of the folk calendar, becomes a full member of the community, has the right to take part in any tribal celebrations, including weddings.
A monument on the grave can be erected only after a year after the death of a person. And it is necessary to remember Golden Rule folk culture: "Do not graze the land for pasturing Pakravou and Radaunshchy." This means that if the year of the deceased fell at the end of October, i.e. after the Intercession (and for the entire subsequent period up to Radunitsa), then the monument can only be erected in the spring, after Radunitsa.
After the installation of the monument, the cross (usually wooden) is placed next to the grave for another year, and then thrown away. It can also be buried under a flower garden or under a gravestone.
get married (get married) after the death of one of the spouses,in a year. If a woman married a second time, then the full owner-owner new husband became only after seven years.
If the spouses were married, then after the death of the husband, his wife took his ring, and if she no longer remarried, then both wedding rings were placed in her coffin.
If the husband buried his wife, then her wedding ring remained with him, and after his death, both rings were placed in his coffin, so that, having met in the Kingdom of Heaven, they would say: “I brought our rings, with which the Lord God crowned us.
For three years celebrate the birthday of the deceased and the day of his death. After this period, only the day of death and all annual church holidays commemoration of ancestors.
Not all of us know how to pray, much less know prayers for the dead. Learn a few prayers that may help you find peace in your soul after an irreparable loss.
Question (Anna Vasilyeva, 7 years old) May 3, 2013 Hello Father Roman! Mom says one prayer should be read before communion. But he says it's better to ask the father. Which one should I read?
Whichever one you like best, read that one. It is better to read the one you understand.
Hello, father! Tell me, please, on Saturday I want to prepare for communion, confession at 21.00. I have a question about nutrition, that is. to take communion all day you can not eat? I comply great post and could not pass the unction (illness of the child, my illness), when is the unction still taking place?
Answer (Roman (Kropotov), hieromonk)
If you are going to take communion at the night Easter service (Sunday), then last time you can eat on Saturday hours, approximately, at 18.00. We have a meal at 16.00. on Saturday.
I don't know about assembly. We won't have it anymore. You have to ask at the parishes.
Question (Irina) May 3, 2013 Father, bless! Please tell me how to read the Gospel and the Apostle correctly? Standing or can you sit and lie down, should a woman cover her head? God bless you for your help!
Answer (Roman (Kropotov), hieromonk) There is no consensus on these issues. I can only express my opinion. I allow the reading of the Holy Scriptures while sitting. This can promote greater focus and attention. Especially if you read it with interpretations. Lying down can be read only in case of illness. It is not necessary for a woman to cover her head. Again, this is my opinion.
Question (Nikolay) May 3, 2013 Hello. I want to get married in May or early June. Tell me what you need for this, what day is better to get married and how much does the wedding cost?
Answer (Roman (Kropotov), hieromonk) The answer about "when" to get married, see from 12/26/11. Olga. For the answer about what is needed for this, see from 04/13/12 Natalia. Ask the parishes where you are going to get married how much does a wedding cost. In monasteries, the Sacrament of Marriage (wedding) is not performed.
Question (Svetlana) May 3, 2013 Hello, father! I listened to your story "Repentance of the demon". Did I understand correctly from him that everything needs to be done in moderation, what is feasible? In the spiritual life, a guide (confessor) is definitely needed. I really liked the story "On the Rule". I saw myself to my shame. Thank you, father, for the stories!
Answer (Roman (Kropotov), hieromonk)
The moral of the story "Repentance of the demon" is that, firstly, you correctly said, on spiritual path need a leader. Let this be not a spiritual father, but at least an adviser, friend, like-minded person in spirit, whom you trust and whose advice you are not prejudiced. You need to be able to listen and hear.
Second: this is obedience to the Church, which is expressed in the fulfillment of the commandments, the observance of dogmas, canons, and the fulfillment of the advice of the clergy, who were appointed by the Lord Himself to shepherd and oversee the flock of Christ.
And third: this is a feasible feat (prudence). In the absence of prudence, even good deeds can be harmful. That which is beyond one's strength is always fraught with something. This is clearly shown in the story.
Question (Olga) May 3, 2013 O. Roman, bless. Happy Good Friday. I would like to come to the monastery for the patronal feast on May 14th. Will there definitely not be a transfer in connection with Radonitsa? If so, by what number? Thank you.
Answer (Roman (Kropotov), hieromonk) There will be no transfers.
Question (Katerina) May 3, 2013 Hello father. I came to God from difficulties, sorrows and sin. I believed that the Lord Jesus Christ is the Savior, including mine. But my faith comes to a screeching halt after a few years of my Orthodox life. I begin to realize that although I believe, I believe shallowly, superficially. When it's bad, it's easy to pray and there is a desire; when everything is good - it’s not that you forget about God, you just don’t feel the need for Him, and when it’s completely bad, then God is seen as punishing and merciless and you want to forget about Him. I am aware of such a "consumer" beginning in my faith and I am ashamed to write about it, but I see no way how to develop my faith in a strong, unshakable love for the Lord. I believe that the Lord is good, but the primitiveness of my faith oppresses me. How can I turn my shallow faith into real faith and boundless love and devotion to the Savior? Thank you.
Answer (Roman (Kropotov), hieromonk) You can't "transform" anything on your own. Faith is a gift from God. Faith is strengthened by prayer and living piety. We need the experience of enduring sorrows, fulfilling the commandments and thanksgiving, as well as time. "Faith appears in a person from the fulfillment of the Gospel commandments, grows as they are fulfilled, fades and is destroyed as they are neglected" (St. Ignatius Brianchaninov). “Only that soul is capable of faith, which by permission has rejected sin, directed all its will and strength towards Divine good” (he). "Where does unbelief come from? - from the relaxation of the soul" (St. John Zlt). Perhaps your piety has degenerated into a monotonous routine, cramming, interest and cordial participation have disappeared. We must do everything on our part and patiently wait for the visitation of God.
Question (Sveta) May 2, 2013 Is it possible to go to the cemetery on Good Friday to clean up?
Answer (Roman (Kropotov), hieromonk) Can.
Question (Elena) May 2, 2013 Don't you think that in our today's life people who take to the streets against the thievery, humiliating human dignity and simply physically destroying their people of power, and there are those very "hungry and thirsty for truth"? Only Matryonushka's words about the demonstrations are embarrassing. Explain, please. Thank you.
Answer (Roman (Kropotov), hieromonk)
I don't know about the sins of the government. You know better. And it is quite possible to express one's opinion in a democratic state with freedom of speech. In Basics social concept Russian Orthodox Church it is said: "If the fulfillment of the requirements of the law threatens eternal salvation, implies an act of apostasy or the commission of another undoubted sin before God and neighbor, a Christian is called to the feat of confession for the sake of the Truth of God ... He must openly speak out in a legal manner against the unconditional violation of the institutions and commandments by society or the state of God, and if such a legitimate action is impossible or ineffective, to take a position of civil disobedience" (IV.9).
Question (Kirill) May 2, 2013 Hello, Father, I have a question: is it possible to meet a girl in a temple or on its territory? Thank you in advance
Answer (Roman (Kropotov), hieromonk) I do not see anything reprehensible in the fact that a man will talk to a woman in the temple in order to get to know and continue the relationship. But it should be decent and within the framework of temple piety. It's not worth getting involved.
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Passion is called not only Friday, but the whole week that precedes the Resurrection of the Lord. The last Friday of Great Lent is the most mournful day when Christians remember martyrdom Jesus Christ through the crucifixion, one of the most important moments in history christian church. This is the day when they usually go to church, lead a humble lifestyle and pray more for themselves and their loved ones. Good Friday is also the strictest day of fasting, when it is not customary to have fun and laugh, and all handicrafts and chores on this day are considered a great sin. There are even a large number of signs on this topic. For example, according to popular belief, if you wash clothes on this day and hang them out to dry, blood stains will appear on them. And if you stick iron objects into the ground (such as a shovel, for example), then you can bring misfortune to the whole family.
Is it possible to do cleaning on Good Friday at home or is it better to refrain - this question is certainly of interest to many hostesses. On last week before Easter, many people want to put a marafet in their house and rid it of the collected garbage in order to celebrate the bright holiday in a clean and tidy way. Due to the busy rhythm of life and the irregular work schedule of many people, there is time to clean up in Pure Thursday the whole dwelling is often unrealistic. Many housewives get out of the situation by enduring general cleaning on Good Friday, like, there is no other way out, and you can’t leave the house untidy.
According to established traditions, the decision to do the cleaning on this day is not the best, but if there is no choice, you can clean up the house after dinner, when the service in the church takes place. This is also the answer to the common question whether it is possible to clean on Good Friday evening. It is for the evening that it is better to postpone all business if it does not come out to implement them on Saturday. If there is real choice, clean up on Friday or Saturday, it is better to transfer all housework to Saturday.
For those who have to work that day in the service and do some kind of cleaning, apparently there is no other choice. This applies, first of all, to cleaners of enterprises, hotel maids, janitors and many other workers. However, such cleaning is not forbidden by the church, since this is forced labor, which does not depend on you in any way. Work without a twinge of conscience, all prohibitions on cleaning on this day do not apply to you. The most important thing is the right spiritual attitude and moral behavior layman.
Among Orthodox people it has already become customary that it is not recommended to clean up the graves of deceased relatives on Good Friday, it is better to do this before Palm Sunday. And Holy Week is absolutely not conducive to such events. The most appropriate day for going to the cemetery after Palm Sunday is called Radonitsa, or Parent's Day, which falls on the 9th day after Easter. In extreme cases, you can clean up in good friday you can remove the graves of relatives 3 days after the Resurrection of Christ, if there is no other option or if they are in a rather neglected state.
Passion is called not only Friday, but the entire week preceding Easter. The last Friday of Great Lent is the most mournful day when believers remember the martyrdom of Jesus Christ through the crucifixion, one of highlights in history for Christians. This is the day when it is customary to attend church, lead a humble lifestyle and pray more for yourself and your loved ones. it is also the strictest day of fasting, when fun and laughter are not accepted, and all handicraft and household work on this day is considered a great sin. There are even many signs on this topic. For example, according to legend, if you wash clothes on this day and hang them out to dry, blood stains will appear on them. And if you stick iron objects into the ground (such as a shovel, for example), then you can bring trouble to the whole family.
Is it possible to clean the apartment on Good Friday?
Is it possible to clean on Good Friday at home or is it better not to - this question is probably of interest to many hostesses. In the last week before Easter, many people try to put a marafet in their home and rid it of accumulated garbage in order to celebrate the bright holiday in a clean and tidy way. Due to the busy rhythm of life and the irregular work schedule of many people, it is often impossible to have time to clean the entire apartment or house on Clean Thursday. Many housewives get out by moving the general cleaning to Good Friday, they say, there is no other way out, and housing cannot be left uncleaned.
According to established traditions, the decision to do the cleaning on this day is not the best, but if there is no choice, you can clean the house after dinner, when the service in the church ends. This is also the answer to the common question whether it is possible to clean on Good Friday evening. It is for the evening that it is better to postpone all business if it is not possible to implement them on Saturday. If there is a real choice, to clean your home on Friday or Saturday, it is better to transfer all housework to Saturday.
For those who are forced to work on this day in the service and do some kind of cleaning, there is probably no other choice. This concerns, first of all, cleaners of enterprises, maids of hotels, janitors and many other employees. But the church does not forbid such cleaning, because this is forced labor, which does not depend on you in any way. Work without a twinge of conscience, all prohibitions on cleaning on this day do not apply to you. The main thing is the correct spiritual attitude and moral behavior of a layman.
Why can't you clean the cemetery on Good Friday?
It has already become a tradition among Orthodox people that it is undesirable to clean up on the graves of deceased relatives on Good Friday, it is better to do this before Palm Sunday. But Holy Week is not at all conducive to such events. The most appropriate day to visit the cemetery after Palm Sunday is called Radonitsa, or Parents' Day, which falls on the ninth day after Easter. As a last resort, 
you can remove the graves of loved ones three days after the Resurrection of Christ, if there is no other opportunity or if they are in a very neglected state.
If this date is the anniversary of the death of a relative, it is better to postpone visiting and cleaning the grave and the deceased a couple of days before Good Friday.
Such prohibitions, of course, should be heeded, but if you have a strict need to visit the cemetery on this particular day, ask God for forgiveness and visit the deceased relatives. The main thing is to have peace of mind!
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Hello. Happy Holidays to you. Commemoration week is coming soon. My daughters are 3 and 2 years old. Is it worth taking the youngest to the cemetery, or is it better to refrain? Both girls are already baptized. Thank you.
Olga
Olga, there is nothing wrong with that if you take your children to the cemetery with you. Children will still learn that death exists. You, if possible, explain to them that people on earth do not live forever, that they die. But only say it when they ask for it themselves.
Hieromonk Viktorin (Aseev)
Hello. I had a desire to take care of other people's graves, because no one goes to them, and they are not well-groomed. Wouldn't it be considered a sin and a defilement that a stranger cleans up on other people's graves?
Ivan
Good afternoon Happy Easter! And my question is this: is it possible to place an icon over a mirror in the hallway? Thank you in advance for your response!
Natalia
Natalia, icons should be in every room and in the kitchen. Icons do not have to be placed on a shelf, they can be hung on the wall in a convenient place. If there is no other place, then, I think, an icon can be hung above the mirror in the hallway.
Hieromonk Viktorin (Aseev)
Hello, I swore on the icon and did not keep my word, what should I do now?
Galina
Galina, the Holy Scripture says that we should not take oaths at all, "do not swear either by heaven or by earth." In itself, your action is already sinful, because you began to take an oath, and even more so, on the icon. I don’t know what kind of oath you took, but in any case, you must definitely repent of this in the church with the priest, and tell him everything in detail, then he will tell you what to do. For the future - never swear by anything or anyone. Everything will be fine
Hieromonk Viktorin (Aseev)
Hello, father! I lost my wedding ring yesterday. My husband and I got married with this ring. I'm very worried! Tell me how can we be? Thank you very much!
Love
Love, I'm certainly sorry you lost your wedding ring. However, you can buy another ring, consecrate it in the church and wear it. There is no need to become discouraged: the ring itself cannot bring us closer to God or move us away from Him, and does not affect our lives. The ring is just a thing. Of course, purely humanly, it's a pity that you lost him, but there's nothing you can do about it, you need to put up with it.
Hieromonk Viktorin (Aseev)
Hello! Father, tell me, please, is it necessary to pray for all people, or only for relatives? And if prayer for strangers makes you feel bad at heart, then in this case you need to do it, or do you just need to overpower yourself every time? Thank you in advance. Save you Lord!
Alexy
Alexei, you are not required to pray for all people. You can't pray for everyone. For all people, you can only pray for your relatives and people close to you and acquaintances - this is enough for you.
Hieromonk Viktorin (Aseev)
Hello! Grandma was taken to intensive care yesterday. Today I put a candle at home in front of the icon, read a prayer for the sick. Not a drop of wax fell from the candle. It burned calmly, motionless, as if in a picture. I've never seen anything like it. Doesn't this mean something?
Sofia
Sophia, this only means that you got high-quality candles, they do not flow. Candles are made in different ways, both high-quality and low-quality candles come across. There is no need to attach importance to this, spiritually it does not mean anything. Pray with faith that the Lord will help: "ask and you shall receive." The way the candles burn does not change anything, and this cannot affect the course of our lives.
Hieromonk Viktorin (Aseev)
Hello, father! The school where I study is the largest in our city. Many children lose their things. Technicians have a special place where they put what they find at school. Some things find their owners, some do not. Many things lie for a really long time, and remain lost. Question. Do I have the right to take something from them for myself? Thanks for the answer!
Natalia
Natalia, if everything is as you say, and things lie without their owners for a long time, then I think you can take some things for yourself, but only with the permission of those workers who are responsible for this. But if suddenly after that the owner of the things appears and demands them from you, you will have to give them back. I also want to advise you: any thing that you acquire, or someone gives you, you need to consecrate with Holy water. In the prayer book there is a prayer "On the consecration of every thing", it can be read by the laity and sprinkled with Holy water on any of their things.
Hieromonk Viktorin (Aseev)
Hello! Tell me, when is it possible and when not to do household chores during Holy Week (cleaning, washing, washing)? There are several opinions, all my friends agree on what can be done on Monday, Tuesday and definitely not on Friday, but about the rest of the days, the opinions are completely opposite: some say that Thursday is a day for cleaning, others that in no case you can’t do things on Thursday, but you can do everything on Saturday (after the service). Is it possible to clearly and specifically name the days when it is possible to clean up (at the end of the service in the Temple), and when it is undesirable?
Tatiana
Tatyana, pay more attention to your soul. For Easter, you need to prepare spiritually - confess, take communion. There are no strict rules regarding when you can and cannot clean. You watch at the time that is most convenient for you. We usually start cleaning churches, our homes, church grounds and homes from Maundy Thursday. But there is no need to give it a global significance. When it's convenient for you, then clean your house.
Hieromonk Viktorin (Aseev)
Hello father. My grandmother, whom I loved very much, died 7 years ago. I cry for her every day and often remember. Sometimes I get the impression that she is nearby, she sees everything. Please tell me is it possible? Doesn't it hurt the dead that I often mourn her?
Anna
Anna, there should be a measure for everything. The fact that you mourn your grandmother for so long harms you, first of all, emotionally and mentally. The dead need to be prayed for. Instead, you fall into despondency, useless sadness. You can only help your grandmother with prayer and your virtuous life. If you really love your grandmother so much, then show it with an example own life. And life must be according to the Commandment of God. Go to church more often, go to confession and take communion. When we live piously, we pray for the departed, it makes them feel good.
Hieromonk Viktorin (Aseev)
Good afternoon Can pregnant women go to the cemetery on memorial day?
Anna
Anna, there is no connection between pregnancy and visiting a cemetery. When we go to the cemetery and commemorate our dead, we are doing a good deed, and every good deed is good for our soul, and therefore for your unborn child too. A cemetery is not a “terrible and terrible place”, but a place of rest. The dead need to be prayed for. The dead are grateful to us when we pray for them and visit their graves. Nothing bad will come of it for your child. Your child's life depends on you, on how you live. You need to regularly go to church, confess and take communion - this is good for you and your unborn child.
Hieromonk Viktorin (Aseev)
Fathers, good afternoon, with the upcoming Feast of Feasts and the Triumph of Feasts! Bless. Prompt based on life experience, what vegetable oil is suitable for lamps, due to the lack of lamps?
Alexander
Alexander, I used vegetable oil a long time ago, but then, however, the quality of the oil was different. And now I use only lamp oil. It is not much more expensive than vegetable. But if you want to use vegetable oil, then it is better to choose odorless. But, by the way, from vegetable oil there is soot and soot on the icon lamp. In principle, any vegetable oil burns, but I can’t say which one is better, since I haven’t used it for a long time.
Hieromonk Viktorin (Aseev)
Hello. They say that the graves in the cemetery cannot be cleaned a week before Easter. Please tell me how to do it right, and are there any restrictions? Thank you.
Catherine
Catherine, there is no such rule. But, starting from Passion Week, it is not customary to go to the cemetery (with the exception of funerals), since all Orthodox Christians are preparing for Easter. Also, you can’t go to the cemetery on Easter and throughout Bright Week (again, with the exception of funerals) until Radonitsa, this year it will be May 14th. All Orthodox Christians go to the cemetery and commemorate their dead on Radonitsa.
Hieromonk Viktorin (Aseev)
Hello! I am getting ready for Communion, I want to go to church on Sunday. I started fasting and immediately broke the fast on the first day: I bought a bag of chips. At first I did not notice that the composition included dairy products, and then I saw it, but I still finished it. Please tell me, is it possible to continue fasting and go to Communion? Or should it be rescheduled for another day. The whole problem is that I have already agreed with my father to take me to the temple, and if I don’t go now, I don’t know when I will go again. Thank you in advance.
Anastasia
Anastasia, you must always be attentive to your life, to what we eat, what we say, what we do. Keep fasting and prepare for communion. I don't think anything bad happened. You didn't eat it on purpose, but out of inattention. Tell the priest at confession.
Hieromonk Viktorin (Aseev)
I bought a pectoral Cross in a church shop, asked if it was consecrated, they said that it was sprinkled. Need to bless the cross?
Nicholas
Nikolay, when we consecrate any thing, we sprinkle it with Holy water. "Sprinkle" is a church term, which means that the cross is consecrated. All items and utensils that are sold in the church shop are consecrated, and your cross is also consecrated, and you do not need to consecrate it again.
Hieromonk Viktorin (Aseev)
Bless, father! Tell me what kind of prayer to pray to the Saint, whose name - Paul - I bear. Does it matter that my birthday does not coincide with the name day? Save you Lord!
Paul
Pavel, birthdays do not always coincide with name days. Name days usually come later than the birthday. But, in principle, this is not so important, and of great importance does not have. The main thing is that we have a Heavenly Patron. I don't know which Saint Paul you have. Therefore, I will give common prayer Holy Patron:
Pleaser of God (name). Remember us in your favorable prayers before Christ God, may He save us from temptations, illnesses and sorrows, may He grant us humility, love, reasoning and meekness, and may He vouchsafe us unworthy of His Kingdom. Amen.
Prayer for the Calling of the Saints
Holy God and resting in the saints! Remembering your saints and praising their charitable life, magnifying Samago in them, diligently pray to you: give me, a sinner (name), follow their teachings, faith, longsuffering, love, and their prayerful help, moreover, your omnipotent grace, heavenly with them be honored with glory and praise the most holy your name, the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit, forever. Amen.
Hieromonk Viktorin (Aseev)
From a pilgrimage trip to Simeon of Verkhotursky, she brought a set: oil from a lamp and earth from the Verkhotursky monastery. I anoint the sore spots with oil. And what to do with the earth? I don't think she can just lie there. There is also a set from the Holy Land. The same - what to do with the land and water from the Jordan? God help you!
Ludmila
Lyudmila, we usually keep the relics brought from the Holy places at home. You can anoint yourself with oil, you can add a few drops of Jordanian water to ordinary water, and drink it in the morning, and put the earth next to the icons, it can just lie like that, of course.
Hieromonk Viktorin (Aseev)
Hello! I rent an apartment where my grandmother lived, she died. I found her pectoral cross. What should I do with it?
Natalia
Natalia, every person is obliged to wear a pectoral cross. Also, when a person dies, he should also have a pectoral cross on him. In order not to leave the cross trampled, and so that it does not roll around anywhere, take it to the church and give it to where the notes are served. They know what to do with it.
Hieromonk Viktorin (Aseev)
Hello, father! Tell me, please, when can I bake Easter on Thursday? I heard that you can't bake on Good Friday, but you can on Thursday and Saturday. Is it so? Please tell me. Thank you.
Natalia
Natalia, the entire Passion Week is preparing us for the Great Feast of Easter. We prepare not only spiritually, but also physically. Easter cakes can be baked from Monday of Passion Week. After all, for example, in monasteries and in production - large volumes of baking, and in two or three days they will not have time to provide everyone. At home - yes, they start baking from Thursday, because the volumes are small, and therefore there is no need to bake earlier, and eggs are also dyed closer to Easter, starting from Thursday. You don’t particularly focus on this, start baking as you like, you can from Great Monday.
Hieromonk Viktorin (Aseev)
Hello! I know that the icon of the Savior and the Mother of God should be larger than the rest of the icons in the house, and stand above them. We had a large icon of St. Nicholas at home. We bought an icon of the Savior and an icon of the Mother of God. All three were the same size. But written in the same style. Is it possible to leave it like this and put them all together on one shelf?
Julia
Julia, such a strict order of the icons is provided more for the church. At home, of course, it is also desirable to follow these rules, at least the icon of the Savior or Mother of God it is indecent to put it below other icons, but on the same level or on the same shelf along with other icons is quite acceptable.
Hieromonk Viktorin (Aseev)
