Hellinger alignment... Or a very quick way to get rid of your problems. System constellations according to Hellinger

System placement. How it works

System placement. Such a concept appeared in our lexicon recently. In this article, I will try to give a general idea of ​​​​the methodology that many psychologists are already working with. It's called Systemic and Family Constellations.

This is a very strong and very effective help, working with individual problems of a person.

What problems can arrangements solve?

See and find solution:

Relationship difficulties with a partner or spouse

interpersonal,

Family parenting problems

family,

professional difficulties,

Health problems,

Also psychological.

What is it and how does it work?

There is a so-called information generic system field, which has its own structure and three basic laws:

Accessories;

Hierarchies (seniority);

Balance: take - give.

When one or more laws are violated, system dynamics are created that are passed down from generation to generation. The phenomenological effect of the violation, even if it happened far, deep in the past, affects us or our children. The system itself, the information field, is outside of time and space. Any person, being a member of his kind and this system, carries these dynamics and may not fully live his life, transferring fragments of these systemic disorders to currently, which is reflected in behavior, character, diseases, feelings.

The constellation technique allows you to change what interferes with a full life, what could not be corrected in other ways, did not work out.

What happens during the deployment process?

The mediator or leader has the opportunity to enter the generic field, system, find the cause and balance the balance with the help of knowledge known to him. The system comes into balance and the dynamics disappears, which means that the very problem with which the person came to the constellation disappears. Do not forget that the request for solving the problem must be very specific and the customer says what he wants to get in the end. If there are several problems, each of them needs a separate arrangement.

Sometimes it happens that, playing the role of a substitute in the process of constellation, a person replacing someone can discover and work out his problem, which he had not even guessed about before or was looking for other solutions. Miracles don't happen. Therefore, you need to understand that changes can take time, sometimes an hour, sometimes a day, sometimes a year. But the process is still running. A properly trained mediator has the opportunity to enter the generic system, find the cause and, using knowledge, even out the balance. As soon as the system comes into equilibrium, the dynamics disappears. And this means that the problem with which the person came to the constellation also disappears. It just ceases to exist. A person's life is changing. He becomes himself.

Here are some of the problems that the constellation method works with:

Diseases (cancer, asthma, hepatitis)

Diseases of the spine

Causeless fears

Migraine

Overweight problems

Infertility

miscarriages

Addiction

Alcoholism (as a hidden death)

gambling addiction

Stuttering

Poor relationship with children or parents

suicidal tendencies

Irresistible negative desires or vice versa lethargy

Passivity

Uncertainty or excessive hyperactivity

Impossibility of self-realization

bad memory

Depression

Aggression

And a number of others.

It is very difficult to describe in a small article what is really happening.

About constellations, today a lot of articles have already been written. Professional constellators, leaders or mediators are people who have been trained in this method for two years, and mostly already have a psychological education. Although the absence of such is not a refusal to study. Those people with whom I intersect quite often on the topic of constellations study at the French Institute of Family and Systemic Constellations, directly from the Master - Idris Laor.

In order not to retell the methodology and not to quote the articles of masters and teachers, I will give one abstract and one specific example to understand how the spreads work.

So, an example of what can happen if one of the family members in the family is undeservedly forgotten, deleted from memory, for various reasons.

Many people know such examples when a tragedy occurs in a completely prosperous family, and a child who grew up ordinary and calm suddenly finds himself either in a bad company or commits a crime, and eventually ends his life in a prison cell.

What can happen in terms of arrangements?

Sometimes a person's actions are not his personal actions. He begins to live the life of an ancestor, with whom his fate is intertwined, and who, perhaps, went just such a path, and was erased from memory. That is, it is an excluded member of the system. The ancestor was engaged in robbery, committed crimes and ended up in prison. All relatives turned away from him, considering him bad, and the mother, in order to protect the child from bad influence, said that the father had died or disappeared in an unknown direction. The child was given to understand that he did not have a father. IN ordinary life and this happens quite often. Nobody wants to deal with bad people, especially with criminals. But at the level of the system, kind, this is a violation of one of the basic laws. In fact, this is a wound for the system and it begins to heal it, usually choosing the youngest member of the family, and through him corrects the violation.

What's happening?

A person begins to repeat the actions and behavior of his expelled ancestor, commit robbery, hooliganism or something similar, and eventually ends up in prison.

This is an example that calls into question the topic of self-installation. The feeling that was adopted from the ancestor will also affect self-setting. By the way, if we talk about self-installations in general, then we can say that they simply do not exist. These are someone's examples and someone's attitudes that a person adopts in the process of life. But this is about something else.

Returning to systemic violations, one can see that the person is not to blame. He is responsible for the actions of others. He took on this responsibility without even knowing it.

Using the constellation method, you can go deeper into the problem, to its roots, which sometimes turn out to be at the level of the ninth generation and even deeper. Those violations that have arisen once do not belong to us, and we cannot realize them. But, being representatives of the genus, these problems are passed on to us as living people, and from us they can pass to the next generations.

Second example. Real.

The woman came with a problem. Her youngest son, who is 18, has lost interest in life. He is afraid to go out, he has no desires and goals. A prosperous family, however, not so long ago, moved to live in St. Petersburg from another country.

At first, the parents associated the depressive state of their son with the move. But time passed and nothing changed. And then the mother turned to the constellators for help. In the process of arrangement, it turned out that the woman had two abortions before the birth of her second son. Forgotten children, erased from life as unborn, began to influence the life of the youngest member of the family. Such situations are also quite common, when the cause of depression and loss of interest in life cannot be explained. Unborn or aborted children can "force" a person to commit suicide, they show a desire to take their place and receive the love of their parents, which they were deprived of.

What is done in this case?

It is necessary to recognize the fact that these children are also members of the clan and the system and accept them in your heart as full-fledged members of the family, give them a place, agreeing with their existence. How acceptance occurs, I will not describe. This is a kind of ritual that you can see when you come to the constellation. Feelings and states cannot be described in words.

Once upon a time, after reading and watching a video about Bert Hellinger's constellations for the first time, I tried to understand how this could even be, why and what was happening. Outwardly, it looks like a performance, and it is rather difficult to believe that this is a reality until you yourself take part in this action. The presence of the field is felt so strongly that, being a substitute, a person really becomes for some time the one he replaces. He experiences exactly those feelings that were experienced by the one whose role he plays in the constellation.

In the end, I still want to say one thing. "Better to see once than hear a hundred times".

In this case, the saying is very accurate.

here are some more examples.

life parallels.

Often in constellations, amazing life parallels appear.

The client does not want to work, "is looking for herself" in the esoteric, categorically denies the church and Christianity.

Her father did not know his own father, he was raised by his stepfather all his life.

His patronymic and surname are from his stepfather.

As they say in her family, "grandmother" worked up, but no one knew from whom ...

Grandma all my life holy kept a secret.

The constellation reveals the excluded family member.

The paternal grandfather is a monk whose spiritual aspirations are directed towards Christianity.

He devoted his life to service, spiritual quests, and prayers.

The client unconsciously repeats his fate.

Her loyalty to the system is manifested in the denial of the church and Christianity, she excluded this from her life, just like her grandfather.

Her loyalty to the excluded grandfather is manifested in spiritual quests, prayers, service, in a repetition of his fate.

Bad relationship with mom.

The client has a bad relationship with her mother. Mom constantly reproaches her: “You took everything from me!”

The root cause of these relationships is revealed in the constellation - a woman who died in childbirth.

The client's mother carries the feelings of this woman who died in childbirth, for whom her daughter is her death, which took everything from her, took her Life.

We remove the identification and for the first time the client can approach her mother and hug her gratefully.

Money or vocation.

The client has a very prestigious specialty, a chic education.

But all her life she is faced with the choice of either money and exhausting boring work, or penniless work by vocation, which warms the soul. It is impossible to combine money and vocation.

We put the deputy client and two figures - Money and Vocation.

The deputy broadcasts the feelings of the client: “These two figures seem to tear me into two parts and I don’t know what to do.”

The figures of Money and Vocation turn into the client's parents, who divorced when the client was very young. The client practically did not communicate with her father, who drank heavily. Mom did not approve of the daughter's communication with her father.

Usually, with a divorce and such ambiguous messages - mom wants one thing, dad wants something completely different - it is very difficult for a child. In life, he can obey one of the parents, but in his soul he will be loyal to the other parent, for example, repeating his fate.

And then in life this child, already being an adult, will constantly face the problem of a hard choice "Either this or that." Confrontation will be seen in all spheres of life.

And he will not be able to connect in life "Both this and that."

Life will constantly put before the problem of choice.

And the key point here is the choice "between mom and dad" and when the long-awaited union of parents in the heart occurs, the problem of choice disappears.

It becomes possible to accept both at the same time, and the vocation begins to bring great joy and big money.

Enuresis in a child.

Girl, 11 years old. Mom died, dad is in prison, the girl is being raised by her grandparents.

The child has psoriasis and enuresis.

Enuresis is the unshed tears of a child.

They worked individually with the help of arrangement pictures and metaphorical cards with a symptom of psoriasis.

We start with a drawing. I ask her to draw psoriasis and the one who is hiding behind this symptom, then the one who was hiding behind the symptom - in the second picture, already without the image of psoriasis.

The girl drew a man and was frightened of him herself, began to whine and asked to throw the picture away.

We continued to work with the help of figurines and metaphorical cards.

It is interesting that the girl's enuresis stopped immediately after the placement, although we were working on another symptom.

P.S. The psoriasis went away after a few months.

Bert Hellinger suggests the following for stopping enuresis in a child:

…“Some parents face a problem when they are already relatively big child urinates in a dream. These children can be told a story by including small scenes, such as turning off a faucet or fixing a gutter.

For example. Little Red Riding Hood came to visit her grandmother. She was about to enter the house when she noticed that the gutter was broken and water was dripping onto the porch of the house. Then Little Red Riding Hood said to herself: "First I'll mend the chute." She went to the barn, got some pitch and a ladder. She set up a ladder, climbed it up to the roof, and patched up the hole in the gutter to keep water from dripping onto the porch. Only after that did Little Red Riding Hood enter her grandmother's house.

Or. One of the seven dwarfs comes to Snow White one morning and complains that all night it was dripping from the roof and he woke up in a completely wet bed. Snow White said: "Now I will do everything." When all the dwarfs had gone to work, she climbed onto the roof and, finding that one tile had simply moved to the side, straightened it. When the dwarf returned from work in the evening, he was so tired that he even forgot to ask Snow White about the roof. The next morning he didn't think about it, because everything was in order.

One father whose daughter had this problem told her these stories, and they immediately worked. The next morning the bed was dry. But in doing so, he learned something else.

Previously, when he told his daughter bedtime stories, she listened very carefully and made sure that he did not miss anything or add anything of his own. But the tale of Little Red Riding Hood, told with changes, did not cause the slightest protest in her, she took these changes for granted. This suggests that knowing soul the child unites with the narrator. The soul wants to find a solution, but it should not be verbatim, then the child, with the help of understanding and courage, will be able to do something new.

Of course, the child understood what the father wanted to say, otherwise nothing would have changed. But by not naming the problem itself, the father showed respect for the shame of the child. The child felt a deep respect for himself, felt how carefully his father treats him, and was able to react accordingly.

The child himself knows that he wets the bed, he does not need to be told about it. He also knows not to do it. He doesn't need to talk about it. When he is given advice or reminded of his problem, he feels humiliated. If such a child follows the advice, he loses some of his own dignity, while the dignity of the parents is “added”. The child defends himself without taking advice. Precisely because I am giving him advice, he must act differently in order to maintain his self-respect. Dignity is the main thing for any person, it is also important for a child. Only if the child feels that the advice is given to him with love, he will follow the advice.

Life success.

The client is a teenager, 16 years old. Considers himself a failure. The parents divorced a few years ago.

The client will soon be admitted to a very prestigious military school, with huge competition and difficult exams.

We put the client's deputy, his mother, his father and the figures "Life Success" and "Military School".

The figure "Life success" is standing, turning away from the client.

We work with the acceptance of both parents, the acceptance of masculine power through the father, with the acceptance of Success.

And although Hellinger says that our success has the face of our mother, this arrangement shows the following - the success of the client has the face of his father. His success comes to him through his father, through his male gender.

After the arrangement, the boy enters the coveted military school the first time and successfully continues his studies there.

Infertility.

The client came before the wedding - enters into a second marriage. Request - sterility.

She is divorced from her first husband, the relationship is still incomplete.

She left her husband, although she loved him very much. He explains his departure by the fact that it will be better for him.

The first marriage had an unborn child (abortion).

In the constellation, it turns out that the client cannot look at her unborn child, and the child's substitute broadcasts a lot of aggression on the client.

Property.

The client divorces her husband, and somehow it turns out that her property (2 apartments) remains with him. We put her, her husband and property. The figure of property immediately sits at the feet of her husband's deputy like a child, and the husband supports him. The deputy client is unable to look at the child. It turns out that the client and her husband had an unborn child (miscarriage).

We work with the situation and the client, despite the severe pain, accepts her child into her heart and stands next to her husband, supporting the child.

The property in this case only indicated the situation with their child, called to look at him.

The aimlessness of existence and the decline of strength.

The client does not have any goals in her life, does not know what she wants in her life, constantly feels a breakdown, does not live - but exists.

The constellation shows her identification (the strongest connection of her Soul) with her unborn sister - her mother had an abortion.

And the client carries all the feelings and emotions of this unborn child.

After the arrangement, the client felt the Taste of Life for the first time.

I look for you in all men.

The client has a recurring love scenario. All her men begin to perceive her as a sister. And she forgives too much to her men. She had many men, but the relationship with them does not suit the client. She is looking for her one and only.

The arrangement shows that in all her men she is looking for her unborn older brother. Her dad had a first love - and in that relationship there was an unborn child (abortion).

The client confirms that since childhood she dreamed of an older brother. And in her relationships with men, she projected onto them the role of her older brother. Therefore, she forgave them a lot - after all, a brother is forever ... And she was disappointed in them - not finding the one she was looking for in them ...

The same thing happens with men who have an unborn sister. They begin to look for her in all women - and do not find ...

Sometimes there are situations when a man begins to look for his unborn brother in other men. He becomes a homosexual - out of great love for his unborn brother - he needs to feel him next to him - in another man ...

Another variant of homosexuality is when a person has a strong identification with a person of the opposite sex from his kind. The same can be said about lesbian love.

Love triangle.

The client has a difficult relationship with two men at the same time. One is much older than her, the other is her age. Her father and brother died in the accident.

The arrangement shows that the two men next to her replace her dad and brother.

Her soul thus tries to revive the people dear to her.

Asthma.

The client has a young daughter with asthma.

The constellation shows the daughter's deep connection with her great-grandfather, who died of pneumonia during the war.

After the arrangement, a significant improvement in the girl's health condition occurs.

Panic fear.

The client has a panic fear that he will be killed.

We start individual work on figurines and it turns out that in the client's family there is a Don Cossack who killed a man.

And the client wants to pay with his life for that sin...

The interweaving of destinies comes to the surface, the source of this fear becomes clear. And the fear goes away.

Money.

Client request - money. He wants to make good money - it doesn’t work, and when he manages to earn money, money flows through his fingers.

The arrangement shows the main reasons:

It is dangerous to earn a lot - they can be dispossessed and exiled. This is the dispossessed family of her great-grandfather.

And the money is slipping through your fingers - they take her mother out for abortions.

After the arrangement - six months later - the situation with money changes dramatically for the better.

I am also in the war, like my grandfather.

The client has tense relations with people, many conflicts "Not for life, but for death" ... He fights with everyone with or without a reason. He needs enemies to fight with someone and hate someone. He needs opposition.

"The man who wants to go to war doesn't think about whether his opponent wants to fight. The man who wants to go to war is blind. He never looks at the enemy, he just rushes at him. He doesn't want to look at the enemy. Essentially, any enemy he meets. He does not need to see the enemy, he himself creates the enemy and rushes at him. When a battle rages inside a person, enemies appear from the outside. " Osho.

The client's grandfather died in the war. And the grandson has a strong identification with his grandfather.

He, like his grandfather, remained in the War ...

A part of the soul of a person who has been in a war remains on the battlefield.

Understanding comes and the situation changes - the client understands that he is the grandson of the Warrior, but he does not need to fight in order to prove his love and belonging to his grandfather in this way.

He may remember his grandfather differently.

Be a winner in life.

I have had great lives. Past life experience.

Sometimes in the constellation, karmic experience from the client’s past lives is revealed.

In the life of a client, a period of natural disasters: all the appliances in the house broke down, a brick almost fell on her head, a wheel fell off the car, and a few days later the car was stolen ... A state of frozen emotions and body. The Snow Queen. And absolutely no desire.

The constellation reveals an old hermit saint who has achieved samadhi in an abandoned cave. The desires of the client stood near this cave - they aspired to the spiritual world, and in material world there were no clues.

We put the figure of the Client's Life - it seems to her unsightly and small compared to those Great Lives. The client says the phrase: "I had great destinies in my Family."

And the understanding comes to all participants in the constellation that the phrase should be different: "I had Great Lives."

At the same time, the family-clan layer opens and the unborn elder sister of the client appears.

At the end of the constellation, the client, standing in the flow of energy, embraces her Life and Purpose.

Another client in the process of arrangement showed a kindred Soul in the form of a beloved man and the mutual desire of these souls for each other through many lives. And there was such a message: "We were lucky to meet in this life, we do not meet every life, so appreciate me in this life ..."

Motherhood and Demeter.

A pregnant client (3 months pregnant) has a threat of miscarriage - bleeding.

Let's start at the archetypal level. Out of 70 cards, the client randomly takes out one card - and on it is the Greek Goddess Demeter - the Goddess of Motherhood.

The message of the Goddess is - "There is blood on you - look there" ...

There is indeed a small drop of blood on the client's white blouse.

The client had an abortion.

We work with the situation. The next day, the client felt a strong connection with the child, calmness and discharge completely stopped.

Envy and pride.

The client often encounters someone else's envy directed at her.

We put it and the figure of envy. There are two murders in the family.

In the family of the client there were wealthy industrialists patrons, whose life motto was: 80% of the profits to give to charity.

Instead of spiritual tithe (10%) - give 80% of the profit.

Out of the best of intentions, her ancestor, a philanthropist, wanted to do good, so that everyone around him would be rich and happy. Let not the hand of the giver fail...

The figure of envy turned into the figure of a killer and spoke of justice... The Ancestor placed himself above other people. He was extraordinarily generous. He considered himself extraordinary, exceptional, generous... Spiritual pride led to envy.

And envy led to murder.

As a result, it becomes clear that pride and envy are two sides of the same coin...

Liberation through generations.

Client request - relationships with men, hidden hatred of men.

She has been married three times and is now divorced. From the first husband there is a child, in subsequent marriages she could not get pregnant, although everything was fine with her health.

We worked individually.

Also, in the course of the arrangement, the client recalls two murders in Rod - her uncle killed his mother, and her aunt killed her husband.

We put the root / original cause, which led to such consequences.

This is a woman who killed her newborn children.

She gave birth and killed. A lot of dead babies ...

We bow before the fate of the killed babies, not understanding how she could do this, because she is their mother!

We look again at the situation - we stand in her role - and the understanding comes that she could not do otherwise.

She already had children who needed to be fed, but then there were hungry times and it would not have been possible to feed everyone ...

And she had to choose... She was better prepared to kill herself, to kill her husband, from whom she had to give birth, but then no one would have survived... And she killed her babies, asking God for deliverance...

And after generations - this liberation came - her descendants heard the cry of her soul...

The uncle of the client fulfills the desire of that woman to die and at the same time, bearing the feelings of the murdered babies, takes revenge on his innocent mother. He carries the feelings of those babies, he sees that woman in his mother. And this identification leads to murder.

And the client's aunt carries the feelings of that woman for her husband, her hatred for her husband, from whom she had to give birth and kill her children. And the aunt kills her husband, seeing in him the husband of that woman, looking at him through her eyes.

And the client brings the aunt's figure to that woman and herself says the following phrase: "Now you are free, I have freed you."

In this situation, an example of the strongest identification and its consequences is very clearly visible.

And Hellinger's words become clear, that Love is behind all even unrealistically cruel events.

"Slave work"

At a client at workdifficultieswith direct superiors.

Everything that is possible was piled on her and at the same time they are treated like a silent slave. They don't even let you quit...

The alignment reveals the repressed great-grandfather, who was forced to remain silent in order to save the life of his friend-boss, who betrayed him.

The great-grandfather rebelled against the system that went over the corpses, breaking the will and lives of people ... "The system crushed him" - these are the words of the client about the great-grandfather.

Great-grandfather's life was broken, but his strong inner core was not broken.

But we see that the situation with the great-grandfather is not the original, that these are the consequences of something deeper and more ancient ...

Going deeper is Ancient Egypt- construction of pyramids.

And some person is crushed by a huge block of stone, due to the fact that the stone lifting system has broken / failed.

"The system crushed him" - the words of the client come up. Here's where they belong, where they're coming from...

Slave labor in the name of the Gods.

The pyramid costs eternity, but it was built by people who lost their lives in this work.

Very often the phrases in our speech are not accidental, they remind us of something from the depths of the Soul, from the depths of the Ages...

Each system arrangement according to Bert Hellinger is individual and made according to the client's request.

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Couple relationships.

"...Shower attraction sweeps away the dam of false decorum..."

On system constellations there is an amazing opportunity:

feel what your partner feels towards you;

understand why your relationship develops in this way;

understand why he/she is like that;

understand why he/she acted/acted in such a way;

see the hidden reasons for what caused this or that attitude;

realize your "love scenario" and, if necessary, change it.

You will see how the law of successful relationships works in a couple - maintaining a balance between "give" and "take".

Loneliness and other problems between a man and a woman often go back several generations back into the family.

For example, the so-called "crown of celibacy" leads to the fact that from generation to generation, single mothers are born mainly girls, out of loyalty then repeating the fate of their mother, grandmother, the fate of women of their own kind.

Systemic family constellations allow you to break this chain of repetitive events and find your own destiny.

Conflicts can arise if the wife lacks a father and she looks for a father in her husband, puts her husband in the place of her father and expects from him what she received less in childhood.

Or the husband transfers the role of his mother to his wife.

Usually the man who has a bad relationship with his mother is in constant search"his one and only", changes women like gloves and does not find satisfaction, because no one can replace his only mother.

Very often a person cannot find happiness in his personal life due to identification with his mother/father's first love.

For example, a mother unconsciously sees her first love in her son and continues to keep her adult son near her in all sorts of ways - starting to get sick, etc.

Or a daughter, being intertwined with her father's first love, does not find contact with her mother, sees her as a rival, behaves not like a daughter, and cannot leave her parental family for her own life.

In already established families, the critical moment may come at the birth of a child, when all the feelings of the wife are directed to the child, and the husband fades into the background.

From the point of view of the family system, the relationship between husband and wife should have priority, and the relationship of parents and child should be given second place, since a child is the result of love between husband and wife.

Abortion almost always ends the relationship in a couple.

Why is there a love triangle? What to do?

The arrangement allows you to unravel the tangle of complex relationships.

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Divorce. What to do?

Parting with a loved one brings great pain to one partner, and a huge sense of guilt to the other.

"My dreams and feelings for the hundredth time go to you dear pilgrims..."

The constellation helps to complete the relationship so that they are really completed and the person becomes free for something new.

If there are children in the family, they should know that what happens between parents does not concern them, that it happens that a husband and wife separate, but they still have a mom and dad who love them.

It happens that women interfere with the meetings of the child with the father.

And the child loves both parents - after all, half of him is from his mother and half from his father.

But he is faced with a difficult choice: "if he is loyal to his father, he will be guilty before his mother," or "if he is loyal to his mother, he will be guilty before his father."

In appearance, the child is obedient to the parent who wins, but secretly to the one who loses.

This is his compromise.

So there can be no triumph here, and it is completely pointless to seek victory in this.

A child always resembles that parent who, for example, loses something in his destiny when parting.

If a child does not obey one parent, then in most cases he follows the value ideas of the other parent.

Such disobedience is again just another kind of obedience and loyalty.

If one of the parents directly or indirectly tells the child: "Don't become like your mother/your father," then the child will follow the example of that other parent.

A woman should respect in her ex-husband the father of her children. The child must feel it.

After a divorce, it is better for a woman to keep her ex-husband's surname until a new marriage, but in no case return her maiden name. The maiden name is a step backwards. Leaving the name of the ex-husband, we express respect for what was between us, that period and the feelings of our life.

Constellations will help you find a way out of a difficult life situation divorce with the least loss for you and your children.

Perhaps you will learn to measure the events of your life by joy.

Do you know what the joy of loss is? It's called liberation from the past.

Get the opportunity to communicate with people who are attracted to an invisible magnet, promising the miracle of inner discovery.

"Something new is knocking on my life,

not even knocking

but walks around, rustling mysteriously,

beckons and promises something very good.

Coming in soon."

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Abortion.

Bert Hellinger's constellation method pays great attention to past abortions. Indeed, during the constellation, a lot of problems are often revealed, connected precisely with a pregnancy interrupted in the past.

These problems may concern the failed mother herself or children conceived after abortions.

A typical problem for a woman after an abortion is an unconscious desire to reunite with aborted children (i.e., to her own death), hence serious and life-threatening diseases, such as fibroids and uterine cancer, breast cancer, alcoholism, injuries.

In addition, simultaneously with an abortion in its classical sense, there is often an "abortion of relations" between partners.

No less severe problems are characteristic of children conceived after abortions.

These children have a weakened connection with their mother, a suppressed feeling of closeness with her.

But the worst thing is the child's unconscious feeling of guilt before unborn brothers and sisters ("I live instead of you").

Such a child cannot find the right place in life, tries to live "not his own" life, hence homosexuality, failures in his personal life, drug addiction, alcoholism, life-threatening hobbies, illnesses, leaving home are not uncommon.

It is worth emphasizing that the benefits of the aborted children constellation are usually so obvious that even experienced psychotherapists are impressed.

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Diseases.

Severe illnesses or recurring painful symptoms in a systemic constellation are often the result of a special role of the sick person within his family.

Often a person unconsciously, in memory of some deceased members of the family, decides to get sick, thus demonstrating his love for the departed ancestors. In this case, the disease acts as a kind of reminder of these relatives.

In other cases, we can talk, for example, about the repetition of the plight of a deceased relative, about the unconscious expiation of someone's guilt, etc.

In constellations about infertility and miscarriage, severe events that have occurred in the family are usually revealed: the repeated loss of children by women of the family, the death of a woman in childbirth, or severe illness after childbirth.

Infertility and miscarriage are the result of a woman's fear and unconscious protection from a situation that threatens her life and health.

The liberating action of the constellation neutralizes both fear itself and the cause of tragedies recurring in the family.

Also, with the help of the arrangement, you can see the effect of a particular drug on your body.

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Arrangement for the removal of a recurring negative scenario.

Death, illness, loss, accidents, conflicts, divorces, the choice of unsuccessful partners can occur according to the same scenario, or with the same temporal pattern.

For example, once a year or several years, on certain dates, etc.

In system constellations in such cases, an event not accepted by members of the clan in the past is revealed, for example, the birth of a child, death, marriage, divorce.

Resolving the problem during the constellation allows you to get rid of this scenario.

The hard fates of ancestors are often reflected in the fate of their descendants. Descendants may unconsciously repeat, to some extent, the hard fate of their ancestors, or, conversely, live "not their own life", experiencing an unconscious fear of such a fate.

Excluded even in the distant past, family members, silence about ancestors with difficult fate often serve as the reason that, for balance, one of the descendants excludes himself from the family and clan (leaves, lives in difficult conditions, is content with little, loses his freedom, strives for death).

The arrangement allows you to interrupt the repetition of a negative scenario.

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Breakdown of dependencies.

Alcohol, smoking, drugs.

The alignment allows you to identify the causes of addictions and get rid of them.

Alcoholism is bitter unshed tears.

Often, mothers of children whose fathers suffer from alcohol addiction forbid their children to accept even in their hearts their father for fear that the child will repeat his fate.

The constellation will help the child recognize his father and his fate, but at the same time allow the child to be free from loyalty to the fate of the father and not have problems with alcohol.

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Arrangement for the removal of fears, panic attacks.

Sometimes we do not realize that many of our actions are dictated by various unconscious fears that we have adopted in the parental family.

Grandma's first husband died in the war, and you can't start a family for fear of losing loved one. The fear is so strong that it is better not to have a family at all than to experience this feeling of loss again.

Your grandmother was adopted daughter in a strange family and all my life I felt lonely and unloved. You meet a man whom you do not need only because of the fear of loneliness.

A person can feel some fears even at the physical level, when "the body shrinks from fear and the soul goes to the heels."

The alignment allows you to see and eliminate the causes of fears.

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Excess weight.

The constellation helps to identify your individual reasons that affect your weight and stabilize it through the acceptance of these reasons.

It is possible that this weight is not superfluous at all, it just reminds its owner of something.

For example, about the fact that you have unborn brothers and sisters, about the fact that someone in the family died of starvation, or about something else.

Sometimes they say about a person "Eats for two." Think about it, who is the second one? Perhaps this is your unborn brother or sister.

Now other times do not die of hunger, but the unconscious fear of starvation adopted from the family makes a person eat for the future.

In the case of abortions, a woman with her enlarged body, as it were, bears her unborn children.

A big belly in a man may mean that he does not accept his mother, but his body, his belly, takes on the shape of his pregnant mother's belly, remembering the time when he, while in the womb, accepted her completely.

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Harmonious relationship with parents.

In order for relationships with parents to become harmonious, it is necessary:

observe the "law of hierarchy in the family", i.e. "parents are big, I'm small", "parents give, and I take;

do not try to fix the difficult thing that was in the family, which is no longer possible to fix (the feeling "if I give up something, then maybe I can fix something);

do not take on someone else's fault (for example, a mother has an abortion, and her children bear the guilt)

get out of tribal interweaving (for example, when a son is intertwined with the fate of his grandfather, he behaves in the parents' family as the main one, he is out of place and cannot take resources from his parents).

get out of identifications with previous partners of parents;

to restore the movement of love for parents interrupted in childhood.

It is very important to bow to the parents. It carries respect, humility and recognition. A bow balances some things. The bow is done slowly to see what is happening in the soul.

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Basic arrangement "Me and my place in the parental family."

A person's place in Life largely depends on what place he occupies in his parental family.

Find your place in the sun!

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Arrangement "Area of ​​influence".

The arrangement will show you in whose sphere of parental influence you are, where your energy is directed (perhaps all your energy is spent on reaching out to one of the parents who is “in the service” - busy with something difficult in the system, and perhaps all of your forces are aimed at maintaining / keeping the parent in life).

This constellation will help you to bow before the fate of a parent, to see that heavy (if any) that separates you and go into your own Life.

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Relationships with friends, colleagues, business partners, neighbors.

Colleagues at work, business partners, neighbors or friends often have to play for you the role of some members of your family with whom family relationships are broken.

Restoring relationships with these family members during the constellation leads to a solution in relationships at work or in business.

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Decent work.

Often it is not possible to find a job that meets all the wishes: the pay was decent, and the work itself was pleasant and the team was good, etc.

The arrangement allows you to find the event in the family that impedes professional success, and safely resolve it.

Also, if a person does not accept one of the parents, the place of this parent cannot remain empty, the person puts work or religion, or something else, in the parental place. But this place has the qualities of a parent rejected by it, and a person is soon disappointed - he changes his job, changes his religion - becomes a Buddhist, for example. And his whole life is an eternal search - the search for a parent he has not accepted.

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Money.

"Don't ascribe human vices to money..."

Very often, money for us is colored by feelings and emotions. life experience our ancestors.

For example, the message "Money is a danger" can be transmitted from generation to generation at an unconscious level.

Perhaps this is a message from our great-grandfather, who was dispossessed or a distant ancestor who was killed for money.

And in our Peaceful time their descendant refuses money, consciously not understanding himself why he cannot earn normally ...

The messages of the ancestors that prevent you from having money can be different:

"In order to earn money - you have to work hard and hard",

"Your work is worthless"

"Dirty money",

"Your time is worth nothing"

"There is no easy money"

"A woman can only get money from a man"

"You have to pay for everything", and so on ...

It was a different time/another era/another event and their beliefs about money were appropriate.

The constellation helps to see and establish your personal relationship with money, with respect for the messages of your ancestors.

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Self-realization.

It seems that everything is fine - and the business is booming, and the work is pleasant, and the people around are wonderful, but something is missing.

I want my soul to sing. And I can’t understand why at times it pulls somewhere ...

The alignment can help you see what goal it makes sense for you to strive for: main and secondary goals, importance, reality or uselessness.

In general, decide whether this goal is yours or whether it was unconsciously borrowed from some member of your family.

And also to remove the obstacle that hinders your movement towards the goal, to help you make a choice in favor of some goal.

The target itself will tell you whether you need to continue moving towards it or not.

The alignment allows you to identify the aspirations of your soul and work with obstacles that prevent you from doing what you are drawn to.

In the process of placing on self-realization, the client receives permission from his ancestors for what he wants to do.

In the process of setting up the movement towards the goal, we work with an obstacle that hinders the movement towards the goal and its achievement.

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Arrangement of creative ideas.

Designed for creative individuals - writers, screenwriters, directors, actors, artists, musicians, scientists.

This arrangement can become for you a generator of new ideas, characters, images.

It can show the development of the plot or relationship from the point of view of the screenwriter/writer/musician and the relationship of the audience, readers or audience to the script/work.

This arrangement is useful when you are in a state of creative "stupor" or when you want to clarify the characters of some characters, or something else.

It also allows you to try various options continuation of the work. Authors get the opportunity to see the distribution of roles in a new way.

It is possible to consider not roles and characters, but character traits.

Then for the main actors a set of several basic character traits is compiled and the interaction of characters with such sets of qualities is considered.

In the same way, scientists can observe the development of events and see the possible result of introducing into a given situation in turn the four elements they consider: one, the other, one and the other, neither the first nor the second. Recommended for video recording.

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"Bliss of the Chakras"

Yoga teaches not just to control the body, but to manage your life.

Yoga begins with self-love.

A yoga practitioner receives as a gift health, vivacity and a special state - a peaceful triumph that reigns deep inside and manifests itself in everything - in a gait, in a smile, in the corners of the eyes.

Yoga fills with energy and meaning what you already have.

This unique alignment is aimed at harmonizing the client's energy centers, helping to gain a sense of inner integrity.

Chakras are the keys to our physical and mental health.

The seven chakras serve as the main distributors of subtle energy within the human body.

The colors of the chakras correspond to the colors of the rainbow: red, orange, yellow, green, blue, indigo and violet.

A constant and unchanging balance of the chakras gives excellent health and a sense of general well-being.

An imbalance in any chakra can have the most profound effect on our physical and emotional state.

There are many ways to influence the energy of the chakras: yoga, pranayama ( full breath), the use of crystals and precious stones, using the sounds of Tibetan singing bowls.

The "Bliss of the Chakras" arrangement uses the music of Tibetan singing bowls, and the information "read from the lotus petals" is exclusive and gives a new impetus to increasing awareness, understanding the inner world.

Mighty healing powers, spiritual and moral treasures dormant in everyone are awakened and activated.

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Arrangement "Dust motes".

"Wake up and shake off the sandy dust of dreams,

But the rocks of imagination stand unshakable..."

Sometimes the same dream is dreamed several times, sinks into the soul, disturbs and calls somewhere ...

You can watch it in an arrangement and understand something for yourself, because dreams are a manifestation of our unconscious.

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Arrangement "Present-past-future".

In this arrangement you will see where you are now. Whether something keeps you in the past, whether you live in the present, whether you look to the future.

You will be able to acknowledge and let go of your past so that you can enjoy the present and look to the future with confidence.

People are accustomed to mechanically separating time from themselves, because it is easier and more habitual for a person to act in this way. Yes, and the clock, which seems to us almost a source of time, to a large extent contribute to the feeling that it is something extraneous.

In the same way, thoughtlessly (and even frivolously), we divide the single time into the past - present - future, forgetting that time is not a dial with divisions. In fact, it is very important to understand the coherence, the inseparability of the present, past and future.

The present is not a moment, not a boundary of separation, but a time where past and future merge. The past is always the seed, source or root for the present. The past lives in the present, determines it, and there is nothing in the present that does not flow from the past.

It is necessary to understand the second, basic meaning of the expression "present tense". The present means the true, authentic, genuine, in which one can act, change something, including influencing the future.

Perhaps someone will want to add one more figure to their arrangement - Eternity.

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Arrangement "Pieces of my soul".

It just seems that everything is paid for with money.

For everything really important, they pay with pieces of the soul.

Shamans have a technique for returning once lost pieces of the soul.

It can also be done in a constellation and gain wholeness.

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Arrangement "Spirit-Soul-Body".

An individual living on Earth is a unity of three components: Body, Soul and Spirit, each of which has its own program.

From birth, the struggle of programs begins, and this struggle is called Life.

Consequently: a person from birth to natural death is provided with all kinds of internal contradictions.

Through the Body, the individual receives from his parents hereditary diseases, ancestral karma, and often birth curses and family debts.

Through the Soul - the karma of reincarnations and the testing of negative qualities.

Through the Spirit - striving forward, the evolution of energy, and perhaps a certain mission.

Under the mission, we mean a special task (commission) that is embedded in the program of the individual, and for the fulfillment of which he is embodied on the planet Earth, or rather, he is seconded by certain forces of the Cosmos at the time exactly allotted for the fulfillment of this task.

The soul has the greatest power, because the spirit and the body merge in it, turning it into a place of personality and human influence.

The will, intellect and emotions of a person are in it.

Sometimes the soul itself takes the reins of government into its own hands through the mind of a person, creating a world of concepts that governs a person.

In order for the spirit to manage, it must receive the approval of the soul for this, otherwise the spirit is helpless in managing the soul and body. The decision depends on the soul, because the person's personality lives in it.

In fact, the soul is the axis of the whole being of man, because his will belongs to her.

Only if the soul wishes to humble itself, the spirit will be able to control the whole person.

If she rebels against taking such a position, the spirit is powerless to control.

This explains the importance of free will in man.

Man is not an automaton controlled by God according to His will, but rather he has complete independent power to decide and choose for himself.

He has an organ of will, and he can choose to follow God's will or oppose it.

God's desire that the spirit, being the noblest part of the human being, should rule him completely.

However, the will - a decisive part of individuality - belongs to the soul.

And the will determines whether the spirit, the body or she herself will control.

There is a constant connection and interaction between body and spirit.

Everything that happens in the soul of a person during his life is important and necessary only because the whole life of our body and soul, all thoughts, feelings, acts of will which originate in sensory perceptions are most intimately connected with the life of the spirit.

It is imprinted in the spirit, it is formed, all the acts of the soul and body are preserved in it.

Under their formative influence, the life of the spirit develops and its orientation towards good or evil.

The life of the body is needed only for the formation of the spirit and stops when its formation is completed, or its direction is fully determined.

The life of the body and soul can be compared to the life of a bunch of grapes full of beauty and charm.

It ceases to feed on the juices of the vine, the dew of heaven, sprinkling the delicate fluff of juicy berries, and only pomace remains, doomed to decay; but the life of the bunches of grapes continues in the wine made from them.

Everything valuable, beautiful and fragrant that was developed in living berries under the beneficial action of light and solar heat passes into it.

And just as wine does not deteriorate, but continues to live its own life after the death of the grape, becoming the better and more precious the longer it lives, so in the immortal human spirit, eternal life and endless development continues after the death of the body and the cessation of the activity of the soul.

The Spirit-Soul-Body alignment has a healing and inspiring effect in all areas of life.

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Arrangement "He, she and the soul their relationship"

Arrangement helps to understand the relationship with a loved one.

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Arrangement by the arcana of the Tarot.

Structural arrangement by combining 4 elements in a person:

Strength - wands, fire, strength, energy.

Abundance / fullness - disks, earth, fullness of Life, wealth, abundance.

Mind / clear consciousness - swords, air, thinking.

Intuition - cups, water, feelings, inner child, heart.

This resource arrangement has a healing effect in all spheres of human life.

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Arrangement "Yin and Yang".

The life force Qi arises as a result of the transformations of Yin and Yang.

Yin and Yang are two fundamental forces that create the universe and bring it into harmony through their interaction.

These two opposite, conflicting forces are present in every action.

They symbolize two opposite energies, which, changing and interacting, represent the dynamics of the world.

This symbol says that reality consists of the interaction of opposites and opposing principles.

Yin and Yang depend on each other, create constant movement, rising and falling like waves, and maintain mutual harmony.

As a man and a woman are partners in dance, in love and life, Yin and Yang are not only opposites, but also harmoniously complement each other.

Human nature tends to underestimate the power of Yin, that is, the power of non-manifestation, the power of weakness.

Projection, manifestation, expression are associated with the male Yang energy.

But Yin is a force as real as Yang!

The alignment helps to accept your male and female parts. harmonize relationships with the opposite sex.

A very strong arrangement.

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Arrangement "My favorite fairy tale".

As a child, each of us had our favorite fairy tale.

A child's heart is touched by a fairy tale, which reflects either his own fate or the fate of another member of the family/Clan with whom he is connected.

This arrangement helps to see the deep generic scenario of a person's Life.

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Arrangement "Parts of the body".

Structural arrangement to work with a symptom.

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Arrangement "Blossoming tree".

Structural arrangement of 5 primary elements of a person:

air

water

Earth

fire

tree

Yin-Yang and the Five Elements are the basis of the universe.

Arising from the interaction of Yin and Yang, the Five Basic Elements (Wu Xing) - the five basic types of energy - are the basis of the universe.

Any system that exists in the Universe, be it a person, a company, a country or a planet, is a stage of dynamic interaction, and, ideally, a balance between the five primary elements.

To create harmony, it is necessary to maintain a dynamic balance between the five primary elements in everything.

A person, his body, organization, country - absolutely everything - are healthy and in harmony with themselves and with the Universe, if the five primary elements are balanced in them.

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Arrangement "Love, sex and spirituality".

What role do love, sex and spirituality play in your life?

Is it always possible to combine them?

The alignment will help bring these areas of your life into harmony.

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Greek Goddesses. archetypes of femininity.

Greek goddesses are female images that have been living in the human imagination for more than three millennia. They personify women's aspirations and they embody behavioral patterns.

ARTEMIS:goddess of the hunt and the moon, rival and sister.

ATHENA: Goddess of wisdom and crafts, strategist and daughter of her father.

HESTIA: Goddess of the hearth and temple, wise woman and unmarried aunt.

HERA: goddess of marriage, guardian of duty and wife.

DEMETRA: Goddess of fertility and agriculture, nurturer and mother.

PERSEPHONE: girl and mistress underworld,

receptive woman and mother's daughter. APHRODITE: goddess of love and beauty, creative woman and lover. HEKATE: sorceress, matchmaker, go-between.

Greek goddesses are beautiful and powerful. They follow exclusively their own motives, not knowing the dictates of external circumstances.

These goddesses are different from each other. Each of them has its positive and its potential negative properties. Mythology shows what is important for them, and in a metaphorical form tells us about the possibilities of women like them.

I also came to the conclusion that the Greek goddesses of Olympus, each one unique and some of them even hostile to each other, are a metaphor for inner diversity and internal conflicts women, thereby showing its complexity and versatility.

In every woman there are potentially All goddesses.

When several goddesses fight for dominance over a woman, she needs to decide for herself which aspects of her essence and at what time will be dominant, otherwise she will rush from one extreme to another.

IN Ancient Greece women knew well that their place in life and occupation are inextricably linked with the power of one or another goddess, which, accordingly, should be revered by each of them.

Goddesses live in the inner world modern women as archetypes and, claiming complete dominion over their subjects, as in ancient Greece, they take what is due to them.

A woman can remain in the power of a certain archetype for some time or even her whole life, not even knowing which of the goddesses she serves.

Children from birth have characteristic features that are inherent to varying degrees in various archetypes of the goddesses - they are energetic or calm, wayward or complaisant, curious and not very, prone to loneliness or sociable.

By the age of two or three, the qualities inherent in this or that goddess are clearly manifested in the girl. The obedient little girl who is content to fulfill her mother's wishes is just as different from the baby who is able to leave home on her own to explore the surroundings properly, like Persephone from Artemis.

Having plans for the future of their child, parents support some goddesses and suppress others.

If parents want their daughter to be "sweet, gentle and pretty" or "mother's little helper", they welcome the qualities of Persephone and Demeter in her.

A girl who knows what she wants and strives to have the same privileges as her brother, can be called "willful", although she is just a persistent Artemis.

When Athena is revealed in her, she may be advised to "behave like all girls."

Often the model of behavior that manifests itself in a child does not find approval from the family.

The image of the goddess inherent in the child in one way or another interacts with family expectations.

If parents condemn a certain goddess, this does not mean that her influence on the girl will stop. A girl can learn suppress natural impulses for her, but at the same time she loses self-respect. The suppression of natural inclinations only leads to the fact that the girl begins to feel her own falseness.

Parents who encourage and support the daughter's natural development give her the opportunity to do what is important to her; as a result, the girl feels good and confident.

Sometimes this or that archetype is awakened by an unexpected meeting or event, and then the goddess personifying it actively intervenes in the life of a woman.

For example, the helplessness of another person can imperiously demand from a woman to give up all her affairs and turn her into a caring Demeter.

Money can make a selfless woman who values ​​genuine human relationships become an Athena, busy looking for contracts that provide a decent income.

Love threatens a woman with a change in life priorities. Habitual schemes are not able to maintain their power at the archetypal level for a long time.

The awakening of Aphrodite can lead to a fall in the influence of Athena, and then love overshadows the significance of professional success.

Adultery devalues ​​Hera's marriage bond.

The activation of the negative aspects of the goddess under the influence of certain circumstances contributes to the development of psychiatric symptoms.

Arrangement "Karmic path"

The karmic path of the individual, the goal of your karmic path, its Gifts and traps.

For this arrangement, your date of birth is required, since the karmic path of the individual is determined with the help of astrologerscal computing.

Astrological arrangements.

We all live in an ocean of planetary cosmic influences. Despite the fact that the planets seem very far away, their energy fields reach the Earth and influence the structures of earthly life, the bodies and souls of people. The radiations of the planets form continuously changing energy structures from which the fabric of life and all creation is woven.

It is believed that 9 planets act on us, 7 of them have physical bodies, and two are shadow ones.

These seven visible planets are a kind energy centers Universe. They are the conductors of the law of karma.

Sun.

Active male energy of the Sun - symbolizes the male Divine aspect, personifies the father. Requires respect for the father. If there is no respect for the father, it closes solar aspect in life (the same applies to the boss, the government).

Moon.

The moon represents the feminine Divine principle. The moon personifies the female maternal energy, is responsible for childhood, childbearing, feelings and emotions. The important thing is to serve your mother.

Mars.

The nature of Mars is masculine, fiery, warlike. Gives self-confidence, willpower and energy to achieve the goal.

The sun and moon represent the masculine and feminine in terms of fatherhood and motherhood, and Mars and Venus symbolize love partners.

Venus.

Venus is our ability to love, appreciate beauty, be harmonious. Venus is an indicator of art - music, singing, dancing, painting, poetry. In the natal chart of a man, Venus denotes a wife or lover. Venus is an indicator of a marriage partner, a sexual partner.

Mercury.

Mercury symbolizes speech, communication, trade, education, intelligence.

Jupiter.

Jupiter is responsible for the character of a person, the firmness of his principles, the level of his morality and morality. Jupiter is the planet of creativity, the energy of expansion. It is the main indicator of children, their number, their health and our relationship with them.

Jupiter is the planet of luck, mercy, optimism and prosperity, money and prosperity. Jupiter - an indicator of good karma and unexpected gifts of fate, shows the stock of piety from past lives.

Saturn.

Saturn is called the arbiter of fate.

If Jupiter symbolizes creativity and expansion, then Saturn symbolizes contraction and destruction. Jupiter is the God of joy, an optimist, Saturn is the God of sorrow, a pessimist. Jupiter is a kind teacher, Saturn is harsh and sometimes cruel. Saturn governs disease, old age and death - these harsh teachers of human life, before whom all things that are subject to time bow. On the other hand, destruction is the eternal companion of creation, while decay and death are necessary conditions for new life and growth.

Rahu.

Rahu is an indicator karmic tasks. It is a planet of extremes - it works either through the lower or through the higher aspect.

Ketu.

Ketu is the planet of wisdom spiritual world, is responsible for enlightenment and liberation. The sign and the house where Ketu is located shows the area in which we have worked in past life and where we have deep implementations.

resource song.

When we sing our favorite song, our deepest feelings are expressed through it, and these feelings do not always coincide with the lyrics of the song...

The "Resource Song" technique allows you to sing your song through these feelings, living them bodily - and the feelings go away, let the person go.

My feminine gender.

Return of the Force of the Feminine.

Return of Femininity.

Acceptance of Women's Happiness.

Arrangement for women who want to feel the flow of the Force of their female Family and receive the Blessing of the women of their Family for Women's Happiness.

My male gender.

Constellation for men who want to accept the Power of their Male and feel the strong shoulder of the father, grandfather, great-grandfather, great-great-grandfather and more ...

Bert Hellinger noted that often the source of a client's problem lies at the level of life of ancestors, such as parents or grandparents. Any tasks, scenarios that have not been lived to the end or uncorrected mistakes of the past, are passed on to the descendants of the Genus, thereby weaving them into the living and working out of what the ancestors did not complete. Therefore, other methods that are limited to considering only the current life of a person, as a rule, are ineffective, do not allow to see and eliminate the causes of certain undesirable phenomena. Unreacted feelings, destructive scenarios of behavior, illnesses are passed on to descendants and are lived as one's own. Within the framework of family constellations, the study of the client's problem is carried out more widely, systematically, the sources of problems are identified and eliminated, the root of which is in the life of not only current, but also previous generations. So, the Hellinger constellations are a method that allows you to work with a person as part of a system, find and eliminate the causes of certain negative phenomena in a person’s life, the source of which is in the life of their ancestors.

In the course of his observations, Bert Hellinger identified unconscious actions and reactions of family members that lead to increased suffering (for example, a daughter's revenge on other men for a mother who was mistreated by her father leads to even more innocent victims and misfortunes, while the problem is not solved), as well as several key laws family systems (to be discussed in detail below), the violation of which leads to certain negative consequences.

Many constellations help solve problems, some people come out completely changed, despite the fact that they do not understand at all what happened, everything looked like some kind of strange theater, but at the same time, there is a feeling that something important has happened. In the process of arrangement, one can single out a certain structure, key points, understanding which, what is happening becomes clearer and often instructive.

How does the Hellinger system arrangement work?

A person comes with a problem that he wants to solve. There is a small discussion with the host, it is revealed how suitable the arrangement method is for the solution (sometimes a person simply lacks knowledge, perhaps some kind of worldly advice). Further, for the client system under consideration, for example, a family, several significant people in this situation are identified. In their roles from among the participants, the client or leader selects deputies and places them in accordance with how their position in the system is felt. The field of the system under consideration appears, gradually the deputies plunge into roles and begin to broadcast the processes taking place in the family. For example, a substitute mother may feel parental feelings for her daughter's substitute, substitutes for two warring family members begin to show aggression towards each other, and a sister begins to cry over a brother who died early. If necessary, some more roles are added to the arrangement and it is tracked how their appearance affects the system and changes in behavior.

According to the relative position and relationship between the elements of the system, violations associated with the client's request are determined. Further, various steps are taken in order to eliminate the identified violations, for example, by changing the position of the deputies, placing them in the right order or by pronouncing permissive phrases, as a result of which the field of the family and the client's condition change, the causes of negativity disappear (sometimes additional work is needed to eliminate the accumulated consequences). The client, as a rule, observes everything from the outside, and then is introduced into the field of arrangement to perform key actions, live and fix the image-decision.

After the arrangement, it is better not to discuss it with anyone, try not to talk for a while (and with yourself too, do not ask questions, do not try to analyze), be alone with yourself, do not leave the process, fully accept and assimilate what happened . Sometimes a person starts talking (more suitable is "talking") in order to relieve tension, thus he knocks down the mood and reduces the strength of the constellation, the effect it produces.

As a result of the arrangement, the system is being rebuilt, so new ones may appear, change, or the old relations between people may cease, what bound them together will leave. Significant metamorphoses are possible in the lives of members of the system, for example, diseases disappear or undesirable events cease to occur, someone marries, adult children leave their parents' apartment and begin to live independently, irreconcilable relatives reconcile, sometimes something that has been hidden for a long time and calls for responsibility , to be paid on old accounts, to which they turned a blind eye. Those. not only pleasant changes can occur, but also something that is painfully perceived by some members of the system, requiring development and restructuring.

The idea to shift the function of displaying hidden subtle processes to the people themselves is very good, because. people, by nature, are good translators, they constantly work out signals from the subtle plane, realizing them in the dense one (more details below). A person has more degrees of freedom, more flexible than any other system, any other tool, such as cards, a pendulum, a frame, etc. Substitutes can move, speak, show emotions, build figures, show dynamics, connection, interact, etc. ., which allows you to more fully and vividly convey subtle processes. It also gives some visibility and is easier to perceive by others, what is happening is clearer, more natural and closer to a person’s everyday life than the form in which information is given out in other systems (Tarot, pendulum, etc.).

The constellation method can be used not only to unleash family entanglements, but also to address issues of personal development (what is better to focus on now), finding a place in life, forecasting (which choice is best for a person), to clarify and improve relationships within teams, for example, organizations (what happens between employees on a subtle plane, where weak spots why the director stopped working well, how best to build relationships with one or another employee, what is the reason for current failures, mass layoffs and apathy in the company, what can be done, how customers will react to innovations). We can say that this is a technique based on the phenomenon of substitutive perception, the ability of a person to identify with any objects (subpersonality, a person, a dream figure, a collective, an organ of the body) or rather abstract concepts, processes, qualities and phenomena (death, relations , reason, emotion, disease, life, wisdom).

Constellations, in addition to the group form, can be carried out one on one with a specialist, then the places of the figures are marked with “anchors”, and the specialist moves from mark to mark and gets used to the sensations of this figure, then everything happens approximately the same as in group work. Work can be done in your imagination, alone with yourself.

Systematic consideration of problems

A widespread narrow view of certain negative actions or vices of a person often does not allow solving the problem, because often several people are involved in this and the reason, the source of such behavior may be in another person, and everything is blamed on the victim and looking for (and finding) flaws in it. If you look at the problem more broadly, see a person as part of the system, pay attention to the relationship of elements, then often the situation is presented in a completely different light, and accordingly, other solutions appear.

Example "Man drinking"

The first husband of the woman left her and after a while she marries another, most likely not out of love. A woman is constantly dissatisfied with her new husband, compares him with others and finds flaws, and especially with the first. This happens as clearly - no matter what a man does, everything is not right, and on a subtle plane - a woman inside regularly aggresses, sends negative thoughts, does not respect and despises a man, instead of a house like a fortress, good comfort, only pummeling. The husband gradually begins to drink, because. cannot withstand constant attacks. Perhaps he is not aware of the source of the problem, he feels that he is not well, and in order to somehow get away from these feelings, he forgets himself in alcohol. A man sacrifices himself to save his marriage.

Usually they say something like this: “Everything is fine with him, because he drinks!”, "Go get coded!"(in this case, the opportunity to rest, defend for a short time is blocked, and then other, more serious consequences are likely, for example, heart problems and early death or “unmotivated” attacks of aggression and beatings), "Such a wonderful woman is not lucky with a man"(human behavior within the family and in public sometimes varies greatly, under the influence of various egregors, both the perception of the world and the roles played by a person are rebuilt. A woman may well be “soft and fluffy” in public. See below in the text about the impact of egregors.), “ stop drinking." To stop drinking, you need to see the source of the problem, as well as have the strength to make the decision to leave the relationship. Either a woman needs to figure out what is happening, where these emotions come from, what is their cause, and this is hard and you don’t want to look in that direction, because. something serious may come up, requiring a lot of energy and work on oneself. And in this case, to divert eyes, the stigma is hung that “a drunkard man” (a common version of the “solution” of the problem by the subconscious in order to reduce pressure on the consciousness. See the article on the work of the consciousness and the subconscious), then nothing needs to be done, the position of the victim is taken , all responsibility and blame is shifted to another. This special case, for illustration, there are other causes of drunkenness and in each case it is necessary to look individually.

As can be seen above, with an external declaration of any desires, often people inside themselves do not want changes, desires serve as a screen, speaking in this way or engaging in self-deception, a person receives some benefit. The actual realization of what is desired may not be beneficial for some participants at all, because can lead to a restructuring of the system and relationships within it, sometimes these relationships can stop (the husband sees that his wife is not married for love and realizes the perniciousness of being with her further), even someone's death is possible (for example, when one person held another or wanted to die instead of him, saying deep inside: "better me instead of you"). All objects (both egregors and people) that are not interested in real changes begin to resist as much as they can, create various temptations and unforeseen circumstances in order to return everything to its previous course. For example, as soon as a man comes close to understanding, the wife becomes “silk” (the state is often induced by an egregore and is unconsciously played out) and gradually takes him away from “bad” thoughts, or when the husband is ready for decisive action, urgent matters appear and thoughts come ( from the system) that it is better not to do this yet, the words sound inside: “Well, be patient, wait a little more. Maybe things will change?". States of a man can jump from "My feet won't be here anymore", to the complete absurdity of previous thoughts and a lack of understanding of how he could think about it. These states are highly dependent on which egregore the man is currently connected to.

The impact of egregor on a person

After the arrangement, one can wonder how it happened that gradually a person began to reproduce other people's emotions, thoughts and attitudes towards other people, perception changed, began to feel, until recently, strangers, like his mother, husband, grandmother, brother, much was lived "as as if for real ”- such is the effect of egregor on a person. Few people transfer the experience gained to everyday life, wondering how much what we do every day, think, want, feel, live is our own, and not induced.

With the exit from the constellation field, the impact of egregors does not end, because. egregors are everywhere, a person simply moves from the area of ​​​​management of one egregor to the area of ​​\u200b\u200bother. A person goes out into the street and falls under the influence of a pedestrian egregor, which imperceptibly regulates the flow of people (you can feel the necessary speed of movement and some lines of force along which it is better to go. In the direction of those who violate the preferred speed and trajectory, for example, when a person walks across crowds or constantly abruptly changes direction and speed, egregore makes other people feel dissatisfied, aggressive), or motorists, or the subway. Then he comes to work, home or to the store - they also have their own egregors that control the situation and people's behavior.

Example "In the store"

A burning desire to buy something appears in the store and is somehow explained (or not explained at all), which after leaving the store can be perceived as superfluous and unnecessary, although at the moment of choosing it was felt as clearly necessary, almost vital. The longer a person walks around the store, the higher the likelihood of falling into a semi-trance state and buying a lot of things that were not planned at all. Therefore, in many stores, bread is placed farther away, so that when following it, the buyer picks up something else along the way. Huge racks, a large selection, multi-colored packaging - all this disperses attention and contributes to the transition to the desired state. Listing, moving fast and focused reduce impulse buying.

Everything that happens is perceived personally, it seems to a person that the thoughts, emotions, impulses for action and the perception of other people are his own. In fact, the egregor leading the situation organizes a suitable set of circumstances, puts some roles on the participants and offers scenarios for the game that correspond to the roles, induces certain states. Given that a person is under the influence of the field not for 15 minutes, but most often much longer - often days and years, we can assume how powerful and deep this effect is, how familiar and imperceptible it is. In life, every person better actor than in the constellations, he gets used to the roles even better, learns them for a long time, perfectly and truly, selflessly performs.

Therefore, in most cases, the actions prescribed by the script are performed by a person without hesitation, automatically, from beginning to end, without assessing how useful they are and with full confidence that they are his own. Sometimes such reactions are inadequate to the situation, illogical and lead to negative consequences. Often scenarios are repeated more than once, and a person even notices that it ends badly, yet he enters them and works out, something sucks him in.

Example "Introduced Aggression"

A woman periodically finds a “causeless” feeling of hatred for men, she wants to take revenge on them, begins to perceive them as enemies who need to be punished. This feeling was passed on to her from her mother, whose husband mistreated his wife. It is clear that such obsessions have a bad effect on relationships with men who do not understand the periodic outbreaks of fierce hatred, aggression and destructive behavior. But the program, from time to time, turns on and the woman unconsciously produces a series of blows to "her enemies."

The solution will be to see what is really happening, that these feelings do not belong to her, but are induced, to disidentify. Many problems can be avoided by knowing the laws (orders) of family systems and the impact that their violation has on the lives of family members.

Ownership law

All members of the system have an equal right to belong to the genus, no one can be excluded, there is no division into good and bad. Members of the system include grandparents, parents, previous partners of parents and grandparents, someone who has seriously affected the system (for example, saved someone from the system members, or killed), children, aborted or stillborn, murderers and their victims, those who have suffered in any way from the actions of the members of the system, and whether these people are alive now or not, they are all part of the system. It often happens that some of the members of the system are forgotten or forced out, for example, parents are hurt inside because they had an abortion, they try to forget, not to think about what happened, thereby, as it were, trying to exclude the child from their family. Or relatives with a difficult fate, unusual by social standards, are rejected - they prefer not to talk about them, a certain taboo appears.

In the event of any exclusion of one of the members, the system seeks to restore its integrity by the fact that the descendants begin to work out scenarios of behavior, carry the fate and feelings of the excluded, an identification occurs that people, most often, are not aware of.

Example "Remembering Grandpa"

Grandfather, a businessman, went bankrupt in one business, lost everything, his wife left him along with the child, and they prefer not to talk about him anymore. The grandson is also in business and as soon as he gets to the moment of significant success, he starts making mistake after mistake and eventually fails. This is how he remembers his grandfather. It is necessary to pay tribute to the fate of the grandfather, to lovingly acknowledge that he is part of the family, if possible, to establish contact with him.

You can look a little from the other side. Genus, egregore is a system that has its own tasks (karma), and family members are elements that perform certain functions. In the event of the exclusion of any of the family members, the functions are redistributed among the remaining participants, or the search for a person for the appropriate role begins (for example, it seems to a man that he is looking for a young mistress, but in fact, he misses his unborn daughter). When a suitable person appears, the system directs the missing role to him, he unconsciously identifies with the excluded person and begins to perform his functions. If the displaced family member is remembered and given his due, then even if he has died long ago, he is still present in the system and there is no need to transfer his functions to someone else. The task of a person who is identified is to see the real situation, to understand with whom the identification takes place, to lovingly include him in the system, then disidentification occurs, the imposed functions, emotions, thoughts, life scenarios go to its owner and there is no longer a need to play someone else's role.

Law of Hierarchy

Relationships arise when one side gives something to the other. The one who gives feels a certain lightness, superiority and the right to demand. The recipient, on the other hand, has a feeling of guilt, internal tension, a desire to give something in return, and this internal feeling will torment the person until he restores the balance. So the system, through a sense of guilt and innocence, directs people to maintain balance, tries to balance the exchange within itself between equals in status - for example, between a husband and wife.

When the balance is restored, the relationship may end, because. the tension goes away, the participants have a feeling of lightness. Therefore, in order to continue the relationship, if something good is received, you can return a little more so that the tension is constantly maintained, and the volume of exchange between people grows, which leads to mutual enrichment, filling the participants and increasing the good. If a person has done something bad, then in order to continue the relationship and improve their quality, you need to return a little less bad, that is. the volume of exchange in the bad will be less and less each time.

For those who have been treated unfairly, there is a trap and a great temptation to become an even greater aggressor, to turn into a cruel destroyer. The victim of a bad deed often inside feels his superiority over the offender, arrogance, there is a feeling of the right to demand, punish. Various thoughts can slip through, such as: “I am good, you are bad”, “I am much better, cleaner and higher than you”, “I am kind and tolerant, and you are evil, mean and unbalanced”, “I suffer and go to heaven and you, sinner, go to hell.” The victim sometimes relishes such thoughts, despises and swells in his arrogance, not noticing how his heart closes, he becomes callous, winds himself up (an astral-mental loop - when thoughts and emotions heat up and strengthen each other), is filled with poison and gradually turns into the one whom recently cursed and with a clear conscience, under the pressure of increasing internal tension, commits even greater evil. Mind, at closed heart, can come up with any justifications for cruelty, and they will look quite adequate (“it is his own fault”, “tit for tat”, “I eradicate injustice”, “I am only for the purpose of protection”), at least for someone who fantasized .

In the event of an imbalance, when one gives more than the other, the destruction of the relationship is likely, because. the first begins to feel exhausted and superior, and the second is pushed out of the exchange under the pressure of guilt and an oppressive feeling of being inferior to the other. Sometimes the giver goes to great lengths to prevent the taker from repaying, so he wants to maintain a sense of superiority.

It is very difficult for the taker to sincerely admit that he receives more, that he is, as it were, lower. it is a relationship of equals and the transition to another status is a very serious blow to self-esteem. Refusal to another in equality inside is perceived as aggression and the taker experiences in this case:

• deep feelings of guilt and desire get out of a relationship, it just pushes him out
• aggression towards someone who tries to put himself above
• impulses to restore balance in good or bad. If the exchange cannot be balanced in a good way, i.e. there is no way to thank proportionately, then the option remains in the bad (in fact, in the amount of the difference in the exchange of good and the pressure that it exerts). These may be attempts to humiliate the giver, the desire for revenge, dirty tricks and other negative manifestations.

When there is an unequal exchange, the taker's subconscious finds various ways to protect the psyche and reduce pressure on the consciousness, for example, through the devaluation of what is obtained. Periodically, the pressure transforms into outbursts of anger and aggression against the one who gives more, which from the outside seem completely inadequate and undeserved. When there is no strength to endure and suppress, an explosion occurs, and the taker leaves the relationship. Therefore, in a relationship of equals, it is necessary to keep in mind the size of how much the other is able to return and not cross this border.

If the balance is not restored, then the feeling of duty or the right to demand, to take revenge is transferred to the later members of the system.

Example "Partnership"

The man's ancestor treated his partner unfairly, deceived him. A man is engaged in business, opens companies, enters into partnerships, which end up being “thrown” in some way.

There is another type of relationship - one in which inequality is initially present and some give much more, while others take, for example, between parents and children or between a teacher and a student. In this case, the receiving party cannot return its debt to the one who gives, but can only pass on what was received, for example, to its students or children.

The method of systemic family constellations according to Bert Hellinger for Russia is a relatively new and untested method. In their homeland - in Germany - "family constellations" began to be used in the 1990s, and in a few years this psychotherapeutic technique literally conquered the whole world. The constellation method is used in the treatment of the most different problems- family conflicts, difficulties at work, problems in love relationships. And also in the treatment of various diseases, especially alcoholism and drug addiction.

Systemic family constellations according to Hellinger

Bert Hellinger was born in Germany at the most difficult time for the country - in 1925, when fascism was just beginning to gain strength. The family of the future psychotherapist was Catholic, and the matured Hellinger received a philosophical and theological university education, took the priesthood and went as a missionary to South Africa.

Closeness to God forever defined him life position and hatred of National Socialism. Once in Africa, having heard the question of one teacher-priest about what is more important - ideals or people, Bert realized that nothing could be more important than a person. He laid down his dignity, and all his future life was aimed at helping people through finding lost family ties and reunification with the family.

Bert Hellinger's systemic constellation method is a completely unique method of short-term psychotherapy that allows you to find a solution to the client's problem through constellation - work with the family. Moreover, the role of family members and loved ones is performed by strangers - members of the therapeutic group. And sometimes - the psychotherapist himself.

The Hellinger technique is universal and lies in the fact that they allow patients to sort out almost all their problems.

Today there are several main types of constellations, but each of them involves creativity and improvisation:

• family (resolution of family conflicts);
• structural (solving problems at work, getting rid of fears, treating alcoholism and drug addiction, etc.);
• organizational (for unraveling problems in labor collectives), etc.

The essence of the method

The Hellinger constellation involves the person who applied with the problem (client), constellator (psychotherapist) and deputies (group members). The facilitator (doctor or client) intuitively assigns people "by roles", defining each one's own place in the family. But how do spreads work?

In the course of work - if the leader is a true professional, and all deputies take the process as seriously as possible - everyone begins to feel an inexplicable connection with the client. People feel emotions, experience and speak thoughts and feelings that do not really belong to them. This striking effect is called vicarious perception. And the space from where the participants in group therapy receive this information (recall, these people are random and unfamiliar with the client) is a morphic field.

Hellinger's constellation technique is based on the scientific research of Carl Gustav Jung, more precisely, his collective subconscious. But Jung understood by this the entire general subconscious of mankind, making the division only into races. The German scientist, on the other hand, works with a specific family, clan of the client, including his close relatives, those who have already died, as well as lovers and other important people.

The main source that gives rise to all today's problems of an alcoholic or drug addict, according to Hellinger, is family interweaving. That is, an unfinished process in the family, breaking ties, etc., of which the client becomes a victim.

There are three main first order (laws), the restoration of which will help a person to realize the reasons for his addiction (and) and overcome it:

1. Imbalance between the relationship "take" and "give". The point is that each member of the family should take and give an equal amount (it does not matter - money, love, help, feelings). If the balance between the spouses is disturbed, the child can take over the function of "weights". This kind of duty often remains with a person and in the future can develop into alcoholism (drug addiction).
2. Belonging to the system. Each family member should take his place in the family, regardless of public, personal and social status. He died, died in the war, left the family, was never born due to an abortion - he is still in his clear place in family tree. The loss of at least one link from the chain can lead to problems for descendants. So, if after a divorce the mother does not allow communication with the father, excludes him from the life of the child, then serious problems with alcohol are possible in the future. Restoring respect for your dad is the first step towards recovery from addiction.
3. Hierarchy in the family. The role of "parent-child" must be clearly observed in the family. If someone takes on a role that is not their own (for example, a child is forced to early years take care of mom or dad), in the future he cannot build his own life. And he begins to hide problems in alcohol or drugs.

In the video, Bert Hellinger talks about his method of family constellations:

How are the classes

An important point: Hellinger's systemic family constellations are a short-term psychotherapeutic method. It is conducted only once - it is assumed that during this single session the client will be able to find a solution to the problem and begin to solve it. At the same time, the dependence itself is not analyzed - it is important for the doctor to find the cause and identify the solution (for example, to make peace with the father).

Therefore, the most important thing in this therapy is the motivation of the most dependent person, his firm decision to find out the origins of his illness and cope with it.

A session can last from 30 minutes to 2 hours. In some regional clinics, psychotherapists even indicate the time up to 4 hours. The constellations themselves are of three types: group, in pairs (usually with a spouse) and individual (sometimes the last two are combined).

Group sessions

Conducted in a group of 5 to 25 people. First, the client as briefly as possible, without unnecessary emotions and details, voices the problem. The facilitator (or the client himself) selects the participants in the role of family members and loved ones. The individual person acts as the client himself and his problem, in this case addiction to alcohol or drugs.

Then the client arranges them in the space of the room as he feels and sees fit. And then he sits down and silently follows the development of the situation - how these people communicate, talk about their thoughts, emotions, fears, and look for a solution to the problem.

Individual sessions

Can be carried out in one or two stages. First, the client talks in great detail about addiction, family relationships, and the background of events. Then the session itself begins (sometimes the doctor asks to come to the constellation for the second time). During it, the psychotherapist and the client himself act as deputies, changing different roles in one session.

The arrangement can take 2-3 hours, because getting used to several different roles man is always difficult. In addition, an individual session is always much more expensive than a group session.

The effectiveness of all types is exactly the same, the psychotherapist himself chooses one or another arrangement. So, if the client is not ready to share intimate problems with strangers and refuses to work in a group, the doctor suggests working alone.

On the other hand, an individual constellation session requires preparation, it is usually recommended if a person has already worked in constellation (at least as a substitute) and knows the specifics. Therefore, for beginners, group sessions are usually recommended.

Possible danger of the method

Although Bert Hellenger resigned from the priesthood, his theological views largely determined the specifics of the family constellation method. Immersion in another person, role reversal, intuitive search for a solution to someone else's problem - this is all work, including work with subtle matter, with the soul.

Therefore, opponents of the method of systemic family constellations warn that harm to substitutes can be both real and metaphysical.

1. Excessive immersion in the role. Trying on the image of a stranger (especially if he has already died), the deputy leaves his personality “beyond the threshold”. Such a transformation threatens to lose vitality disorders of thought and psyche. For example, memory problems.
2. The danger is to delve too deeply into the problem. This risk is already very real. The constellator is so deeply imbued with the client's problem that he can unconsciously drag it into his own life and become an addict himself.
3. Destruction of the energy-information field. Experts in energy-informational medicine assure that during the session, the substitute participant is an open defenseless system. In this state, it is very easy to take on severe genetic and karmic diseases - both for the client and other participants.

On the video about the benefits and harms of the Hellinger constellation method:

When situations break into our lives from which we feel pain, anger, resentment, disappointment - what to do with it?

Are these always our feelings and are we always in control?

Constellations entered my life in 2007 - and in one day completely turned my mind around. I realized that I really do not control anything, moreover, a lot of things in my world are an illusion. But what impressed me even more was the changes that began to take place both in me and in the world around me.

Have you ever gone through forgiveness and letting go trainings - and then realized that nothing has passed - nothing has been forgiven and released? I remember Marina Targakova spoke about this phenomenon: “I forgave Luula Viilma, forgave Louise Hay, forgave Sviyash….” This is very familiar to me, I almost had it. You forgive, you forgive, but for some reason you can't forgive.

Does this always mean that we do not work well and make little effort? Or are we just digging the garden with a fork?

For me, the method of systemic family constellations has become a reliable shovel - with the help of which you can weed out weeds and plant rose bushes much faster and better. With his help, I was finally able to weed a couple of long overgrown beds.

In what situations can constellations help:

• Build relationships with parents - or at least take the first step in this direction

• Build relationships with a partner

• Resolve relationship issues with children

• Understand why love in life does not happen and does not work

• Forgive and let go of someone who should have been let go

• See your life through another glass

• Understand where we are really going and why

What does it look like

Family constellations take place in the form of training, during which solutions are found for the problems and situations of the participants.

The work process is very simple:

• you point out the problem

• Do you talk a little about your family? general information, preferably only the host, so that this information does not interfere with others' work)

• Then you choose from among the people present substitutes for the main members of your family and for yourself (at first you watch from the sidelines)

And here the most interesting begins. People come into contact with the energy field. And they start to feel the same way real people which they replace. Moreover, they begin to speak the same way, move the same way as your mother or husband.

The questions the facilitator asks deputies are usually simple:

• Are you comfortable standing?

• What do you see?

• Where are you looking?

• What do you feel for others?

And the feeling is real. You, watching from the side, can even recognize some gestures and habits of your loved ones - for example, someone may start snapping their fingers, like your brother, and someone will suddenly show authority, like your father.

At the same time, when you participate in the constellation, these sensations come by themselves. And sometimes it's even surprising that he was sitting on the bench with Vasya - Vasya liked it. And then you just want to hit him so much that you can hardly restrain yourself!

Or vice versa - Kolya was like Kolya, you didn’t even notice him, but he became “your husband”, and you feel how you are attracted to him - and you can’t stop - stroke his hand.

After labeling emotions, the cause of the problem emerges - sometimes immediately, sometimes after some time. And you clearly see that, for example, your resentment towards your husband is not really yours. This is your grandmother offended by his grandfather because he had another woman (by the way, if something is missing in the system, this is also immediately visible - for example, grandfather's mistress, and grandfather feels lost and says that he has someone here - something should be).

At the final stage, the deputies say the most important things to each other ("I'm sorry", "I love you", etc.) and line up in the correct and comfortable order.

When you look from the side, sometimes it seems that people have learned the script and say what they are asked. But when you participate, you understand that this is not a game. That information comes from somewhere above.

Very often things come up that are known only to the one doing the constellation. And even more often - those that are unknown to him. And sometimes there is even an opportunity to check.

For example, one of my acquaintances found out in the constellation that he is not his parents' own child. At first it was a huge shock for him, but then he found the strength to ask his mother. For the first few minutes she was silent in a state of shock. And then she asked: “How do you know?”

Another girl at the constellation found out about her grandfather's mistress. Fortunately, the grandmother was still alive, and she was able to ask her. Grandma hesitated at first. And a couple of days later she called and said that no one except her and her grandfather should have known about it.

The third man at the constellation found out that his son was not from him. It was a hard blow. The wife declined to comment, but he passed a paternity test - and the information was confirmed. He did not abandon the child, but began to find out who the real father was. The biggest shock for him was that his father was his own brother.

Therefore, the most important rules for the participant:

• Being ready to find out the not-so-pleasant truth about your ancestors is a special courage, and sometimes it is difficult to decide

• To be ready to accept this truth, although usually the first reaction is one of shock. Moreover, it is much easier to accept something far from oneself (in the third knee) than something that is close. Great-grandfather's mistress is normal. Papa's mistress is hard.

• Be prepared not to immediately attack relatives with questions. First, wait until the emotions subside. Secondly, to build all questions very delicately - not arguing (I now know everything about you), but asking (very a good option- “Mom, you know, I had a dream ...” - after a couple of weeks, mom usually calls and says that this dream is true)

• Be ready to help others in the works. You can, of course, just do your job and leave. But to remain a substitute for the rest is a separate courage and special generosity. You can help others so much - why not just do it?

• Be ready to keep silent about other people's work and forget about your own for a while. There is such a thing as privacy - and everyone knows about it. But besides this, you can’t scatter the energy received in the work, right and left - and talking about it, you spend part of the energy on retelling and speculation.

Of course, it is important to say that:

• Constellations are not a panacea. Not all problems can be solved in this way. Most long-standing problems require perhaps more than one job. In addition to constellations, high-quality psychotherapy is necessary.

• Arrangements are the indication of the way. After that, you need to apply the knowledge in life. Start behaving differently. Tell someone something important. Or vice versa - stop wasting time and energy on communicating with someone.

• Sometimes the information received at the constellations is not confirmed. This means that either something was misinterpreted, or the personal motives of the constellator, deputies, or the client intervened in the process of constellation. There are many options.

• A lot depends on the installer. What are his intentions, how open and pure heart how much you trust him and the group.

Laws of the system

First you need to understand who is included in the tribal system. It includes:

• All those born into this system (including miscarriages, abortions, deaths in infancy, orphanages, etc.)

• All partners and strong emotional ties

• All those who helped the system survive

• All those who caused any damage to the system

That is (in simple terms) the system of an average woman will include:

• Husband's children from previous marriages

• Previous partners or significant emotional ties

• Previous partners or significant emotional ties of the husband,

• Siblings, including those who died early and aborted,

• Parents

• Parents' previous partners

• Grandparents

• Great-grandfathers and great-grandmothers

And it is also worth highlighting separately in the genus:

• All those who had a special fate (repressed, dead, disabled, murderers, killed),

• All those who provided the system with a significant benefit or caused significant damage (For example, a woman who took care of an orphan after the war and thereby saved him. Or the one who took part in the dispossession of a great-grandfather)

Pretty impressive list, right?

There are four basic laws of the genus. Violation of these laws entails various problems in life.

Law 1. The law of belonging.

Everyone who once logged into the system remains in it forever. That is, we cannot delete from our kind those whom we consider unnecessary.

This often happens with ex-husbands (especially if there were no children), with aborted children (especially if they were young and in secret), with unwanted elements - criminals, alcoholics, etc.
What to do with them all? Draw and take them into your family tree.

Law 2. The law of substitution.

If we delete someone from the system, then a new member of the system (usually a child) begins to replace him energetically.

Example: A man has a second marriage. The first wife is reliably deleted from life (as if she never existed). Maybe the breakup was too painful, or maybe Mom just doesn't want to hear about the other women in Dad's life.

One way or another, it was deleted. After that, a daughter (or son) is born in the family. And energetically, she begins to replace her father's first wife. This is expressed in two parts:

Mom treats her like a rival - she herself does not understand why. Constantly wants to send her to the camp, to her grandmother or somewhere else, if only away from home. However, the daughter does not feel much sympathy for her mother. On the contrary, he tries to “build” his mother and feels his advantage. Tells mom what to do, when to brush her teeth, etc.

Dad loves his daughter - and it's mutual. He carries her in his arms, fulfills all her whims. In a word, a typical daddy's daughter.

But such behavior of the child and parents is not at all the norm, right?

Moreover, the older the girl, the more problems. Often she cannot find a husband for herself (because she already has a husband energetically - and this is dad). She does not have a relationship with her mother. And so on.
And if you give a place in the system and your heart to your first wife, give her the respect she deserves - whatever she may be in real life the child will start behaving differently.

Law 3. The law of hierarchy.

The one who logged in earlier has priority over those who logged in later.

Therefore, the first wife has a systemic advantage over the second. This does not mean that the first one is BETTER, it just did something in the system so that the second one entered it.

Also, older children have an advantage over younger ones, and parents over children.

But at the same time, the new family has an advantage over the old one. That is, my current family should have a higher priority for me than my parental one (In fact, this is not always the case. It happens that we already have children, and sometimes even grandchildren, and we all live with the problems of our parents).

That is, it turns out a very interesting balance - my husband entered the system later than my mother. So my mom has the advantage. And she should receive respect from me and her husband, as the eldest. But at the same time, my current family should have an advantage for me over my parents. And I should be more concerned with my husband and children than my mother. While maintaining respect for the mother, as the eldest.

Law 4. Law of love.

The energy of love flows from ancestors to descendants and never vice versa.

This is not about not loving moms and dads, but about giving energy to children. And dedicate your life to your children, not your parents. I can think about my mother all day, have constant arguments with her (even if just in my head), take care of her like a little girl. And then my children will not receive energy from me maternal love. Because all love starts flowing in the wrong direction, and nothing is left for the children.

Parents need to be grateful and treat them with respect. But very often we care about them, but inside ourselves we consider them half-crazy or behind the times, right?

How to detect failures and fix the situation

I urge you not to diagnose yourself. You can invent something that doesn't exist. In addition, no two systems are the same. Even if it seems to you that someone has a system exactly like yours, I can absolutely say that it is not. You can have similar causes, but different effects, and vice versa - the same effects, but different causes.

The best place to start is to draw your family tree. Ask mom and dad about ancestors, see trends in the family.

Sometimes it is immediately clear that maternal women, for example, marry at least three times, and men die early.

Usually the hardest things are not talked about - abortions, murders, mistresses and everything else - so after the arrangement, your tree will most likely be replenished with new members.

After you have formed a request and drawn a tree, look for a good specialist. Best of all - on the recommendation (the method is very fashionable today, and constellations do everything - but not everyone does them well).

• On the person himself. First, meet in person (at constellations, you can often come first for free just as a substitute) and see if he inspires confidence in you? Has he solved his own problems (after all, psychologists usually go to those who need such help)? Does he have a family, children, business? Is it pleasant to communicate with him? Trust your intuition. This criterion is very often the most important.

• For reviews. If possible, it is better to follow the recommendation - when you see the fruits of a person's work. If this is not possible, maybe there are written reviews or coordinates of other clients.

• Very often, after high-quality work, something shifts, changes and is solved.

Again, I will give my own example - the method is very close to me.

I have done more than 20 works in order to solve my problems in the family. In addition to this, my husband also did some work.

And I was shocked by the results:

• Firstly, we immediately understood why we started a family - our tribal dynamics simply needed each other - for my dad's family, I was a lost child (no one knew about me, except for my dad himself), and in my husband's father's family I was forgotten lost child (by the way, also a girl). And this is just one of the factors.

• Secondly, having done several works on the topic of our son's disease, some dynamics were identified. And after these works, there were real improvements in Danil's condition. For example, Lesha came to the seminar of Marianna Franke-Griksh first. He did a work on the topic of Danila's illness, and on the same evening the child's temperature rose to 40. We knocked her down, and she rose again. There were no other symptoms at all. Two days later I came to Marianne's seminar and did my paper on the same topic. And by the time I returned home, the temperature subsided. Herself.

• Thirdly, we constantly do work on the topic of business - when there is no understanding why the client does not pay money, or why something does not work out in the development of projects.

• Fourthly, our relationship with my husband has changed beyond recognition - they have become warmer and more trusting, we have stopped fighting and swearing.

• Fifthly, it is constellations that help me restore relationships with my mother - which have never been a source of joy for me.

• In addition, although I did not work directly with these issues, my relationship with my mother-in-law, brother and money improved.

Of course, I will not paint all the problem areas of our birth - this is not ethical in relation to the ancestors.

It seems to me that this method was sent to us so that we could solve our material problems, see the light at the end of the tunnel and become happy already in this life. We can fulfill our responsibilities in the family and at work. Because freeing ourselves from the fetters, we can move forward.