Where to find your inner core (or about resources). Training: "Kitchen of emotional resources
"Young teacher modern school»
Personal growth training: find your inner resource.
Purpose of the training session:
creating conditions for increasing the interest and motivation of young teachers for their own development, for positive changes in themselves and their lives.
Tasks:
Create an emotional atmosphere of trust, comfort, openness.
To develop the ability to adequately and most fully know oneself and other people.
Diagnosis and correction of personal qualities and skills, removal of barriers that interfere with real and productive actions.
To develop the ability to effectively interact with others, to update the internal resources of personal development.
Stage 1 - preparatory.
introductory word psychologist.
We all know very well that the quality of education directly depends on professional competence and personal characteristics of the teacher. Only a person capable of self-development can meet today's rapidly changing conditions. It is in today's time that an amateur, creative, active and resilient personality is in demand. Professional and personal growth are inseparable, and today at our training we will talk about personal growth.
Personal growth ... The concept is intriguing, obscure, but intuitively perceived by most people is definitely positive. "He grew up as a person" - they often talk about people who have become more mature, wise, successful.
The purpose of the training is to update your own resources for the development of your personality. And we will lead it ... (presentation of the presenters)
pay attention totraining session rules they are on the screen(slide 2)
1. Confidential communication style (one of its differences is calling each other “you”, which psychologically equalizes all members of the group and the leader).
2. Communication on the principle of "here and now" (talk only about what worries the participants in this moment and discuss what is going on in the group).
3. Personification of statements (rejection of impersonal speech forms that help people in everyday communication to hide their own position and evade responsibility, put forward their judgments in the form "I think ...", "I think ...").
4. Sincerity in communication (say only what we really feel, or remain silent; openly express our feelings in relation to the actions of other participants).
5. Confidentiality (what happens in the lesson is not taken out of the group, which contributes to the disclosure of participants).
6 Definition strengths personality (during the discussion, be sure to emphasize the positive qualities of the speaker).
Let's start with dating.
Acquaintance - "Alphabetic rank"
Leading: Design badges, write your training name, thenin the shortest possible time, you need to line up in one line so that the names are in alphabetical order. Sit in a circle.
Stage 2 is the main one.
Exercise "Three colors of personality"
Leading: Each of you receives a model of a person - he will be a "piggy bank" of our features. (qualities, lifestyle, hobbies, hobbies, attitudes, etc.) One side of a person with three points different color. Next to the green dot, you need to write what unites you with everyone - “like everyone else”, next to the blue one - only with some (as it seems to you) - “like some”, next to the red one - what distinguishes you from everyone else - "like no one else"(slide 3 green - “like everyone else”, etc.)
Each participant makes a record about himself, about his own properties and traits.
After filling out the leaflets by all participantsleading asks to voice what was written, to present oneself.
Leading. What you have just been talking about is your resources. They are external and internal.
(slide 4) Internal resources - personal qualities or properties of the body that help achieve the goal, they can be both positive and negative.
External resources are conditions that contribute to the achievement of goals.
Leading: I suggest you work in microgroups (group 1 - determines what can be attributed to internal resources, group 2 - to external ones), each subgroup presents its achievements, other participants add)
(5 slide - table) The host interprets unfamiliar definitions along the way
Internal resources (personal)
External resources
self-knowledge
Self confidence
Positive and rational thinking
Knowledge
Emotional intellect
Internal locus of control
Capabilities
Mental self-regulation skills
Active motivation
Emotional-volitional qualities
Psychological defenses
Creative thinking
Coping strategies
assertive behavior
Intuition
Material resources:
Conditions for living and recreation
Sufficient income level
Life safety
Optimal working conditions
Pay stability
Social support:
Emotional Support
Informational
State
Family, friends
Leading: Each person at different periods of his life has access to a wide variety of resources. However, we are not always aware of the availability of resources, and sometimes we cannot access them due to some psychological barriers (the influence of negative past experience, inadequate parental attitudes, irrational thinking, etc.). The more resources (internal and external) a person has, the easier and calmer she copes with situations on her life path.
Today in the lesson we will work with some of our internal resources and replenish the treasury of our resources.
The study of our personal characteristics is a powerful resource for personal development, as we learn to build our activities and our communication, making the most of our personal strengths and capabilities and leveling out shortcomings.
"Test geometric shapes(Susan Dellinger).
Leading: Take a look at the following figures.(6 slide)
You are invited to choose one of five geometric shapes: circle, triangle, square, rectangle or zigzag. Choose from them the one in relation to which you can say: "It's me!" Try to feel your form. If you are having a hard time, choose the one that first attracted you from the figures.
Leading: now I suggest that you break into groups in accordance with the chosen figure.
This is your basic figure, or subjective form. It makes it possible to determine your main, dominant character traits and behaviors (brief psychological characteristics of the corresponding forms of personality).
Leading: Each group should be familiar withinterpretation of test results (to the extent that concerns their figure) and briefly tell the rest of the participants about those features of character and behavior that are inherent in people of “their figure”.
If someone made a mistake with the choice, justify why you think so, and you can move on to a “figure” that is more suitable for you.
Leading: Now we offer the groups to fill in the tables and write down the pros and cons of the character and behavior of the people of the figure you have chosen.
SQUARE
If your main figure turned out to be a square, then you are a tireless worker. Diligence, diligence, the need to bring the work begun to the end, perseverance, allowing you to achieve completion of the work - these are the main qualities of true Squares. Endurance, patience and methodicalness usually make the Square a highly qualified specialist in his field. This is facilitated by an insatiable need for information. All the information that they have is systematized and sorted. The square is able to give the necessary information instantly. Therefore, the Squares are deservedly known as erudite, at least in their field.
If you have chosen a square for yourself - a linear figure, then most likely you belong to the “left hemisphere” thinkers. They are more likely to “calculate the result” than to guess about it. They are extremely attentive to details, details, they love the routine once and for all. Their ideal is a planned, predictable life, and they don't like change. habitual course events. They are constantly “arranging”, organizing people and things around them.
Excessive predilection for details, the need for clarifying information for decision-making deprives the Square of efficiency. Neatness, observance of rules, etc., can develop to a paralyzing extreme. In addition, rationality, emotional dryness, conservatism in assessments prevent Squares from quickly establishing contacts with different people.
The main life values: order, work, traditions, reputation.
(Slide 7)
pros
Minuses
organization
"Black and white" thinking, one-sidedness
Discipline
Inflexibility, pedantry
Punctuality
Excessive severity
Accuracy
Meticulousness, pettiness
law-abiding
overly serious
industriousness
waiting
Tenacity, perseverance
Stubbornness
Firmness in decisions
Conservatism
Loyalty, honesty
Resistance to the new
Rationality
Fear of risk
calmness
poor fantasy
Practicality
stinginess
TRIANGLE
This shape symbolizes leadership. The most salient feature true Triangle - the ability to concentrate on the main goal. They are energetic strong personalities. Triangles, like their relatives Squares, are linear shapes and tend to also be "left-brained" thinkers, able to analyze situations deeply and quickly. However, in contrast to Squares, which are focused on details, Triangles focus on the main thing, on the essence of the problem. Their strong pragmatic orientation directs mental analysis and limits it to the search for an effective solution to the problem under given conditions.
Triangle is a very confident person who wants to be right about everything! The need to be right and the need to manage the state of affairs, to decide not only for themselves, but also, if possible, for others makes the Triangle a person who is constantly competing, competing with others. Triangles have a hard time admitting their mistakes! We can say that they see what they want to see, do not like to change their decisions, are often categorical, do not recognize objections. Fortunately (for them and those around them), Triangles quickly and successfully learn (absorb useful information like a sponge), however, only what corresponds to their pragmatic orientation contributes (from their point of view) to the achievement of the main goal.
Triangles are ambitious. If it is a matter of honor for the Square to achieve highest quality work performed, then the Triangle seeks to achieve high position, to acquire a high status, in other words - to make a career. The main negative quality of Triangles: strong egocentrism, focus on oneself. On the way to the heights of power, they do not show particular scrupulousness in relation to moral standards. Triangles make everything and everyone revolve around them... Maybe life would lose its sharpness without them.
The main life values: power, leadership, career, status, victory, income.
(slide 8)
pros
Minuses
Successful Leadership
Egocentrism
Ability to take responsibility
The desire to control everything that happens
The ability to concentrate forces
Complete preoccupation with business
Set to win
Philosophy "the end justifies the means"
Self confidence
Determination
Impulsiveness
Courage, risk taking
Ruthlessness
Directness, frankness
Sharpness, cruelty
The power of feelings, passion
Outbursts of anger, rage
Wit
stinginess
RECTANGLE
This figure symbolizes the state of transition and change. This is a temporary form of personality that the other four relatively stable figures can "wear" at certain periods of life. These are people who are not satisfied with the way of life they lead now, and therefore are busy looking for better position. The reasons for the "rectangular" state can be very different, but one thing unites them - the significance of changes for a particular person.
The main mental state of Rectangles is a more or less conscious state of confusion, entanglement in problems and uncertainty about oneself at a given time. Most character traits- inconsistency and unpredictability of actions during the transition period. They tend to have low self-esteem. They strive to become better in something, they are looking for new methods of work, lifestyles. Quick, abrupt and unpredictable changes in Rectangle's behavior usually confuse and alarm other people.
Rectangles, on the other hand, need to communicate with other people, and this is another difficulty of the transition period. However, the Rectangle also has positive qualities that attract others to it: curiosity, inquisitiveness, a keen interest in everything that happens and ... courage! During this period, they are open to new ideas, values, ways of thinking and living, they easily learn everything new. True, the reverse side of this is excessive gullibility, suggestibility. Therefore Rectangles are easy to manipulate. "Rectangularity" is just a stage. She will pass!
It is characterized by a reassessment and a change in the main life values as a result of significant events in life.
(slide 9)
pros
Minuses
Search Orientation
Inconsistency
Positive attitude towards new things
Uncertainty
Curiosity
internal discord
Sensitivity
Suggestibility
Trust and empathy
Emotional instability
Unambitiousness
naivety
Courage
Low self-esteem
High learning ability
credulity
CIRCLE
The circle is a mythological symbol of harmony. The one who confidently chooses it is sincerely interested above all in good interpersonal relationships. The highest value for the Circle is people. The circle is the most benevolent of the five shapes. It most often serves as the “glue” that holds both the work team and the family together, that is, it stabilizes the group. Circles are the best communicators primarily because they are the best listeners. They have high sensitivity, developed empathy - the ability to empathize.
First, Circles are about people rather than business. In an attempt to keep the peace, they sometimes avoid taking a "hard" stance and making unpopular decisions. For the Circle, there is nothing more difficult than to enter into interpersonal conflict. They try to avoid it at all costs. Sometimes, to the detriment of the cause. Secondly, Circles are generally not distinguished by determination, often they cannot present themselves properly. Triangles, as a rule, easily take over them. However, the Circles are not too worried about who holds the power. In one, the Circles show enviable firmness - when it comes to moral issues or violations of justice.
The circle is a non-linear shape, and those who confidently identify with the circle are more likely to be "right hemisphere" thinkers.
"Right hemispheric" thinking is more imaginative, intuitive, emotionally colored, more integrative than analyzing. Therefore, the processing of information by the Circles is carried out not in a sequential format, but rather in a mosaic, with breakthroughs with omissions of individual links. This does not mean that Krug is at odds with logic. It’s just that formalism doesn’t get priority in their decision life problems. The main features in their thinking are an orientation towards the subjective factors of the problem (values, assessments, feelings, etc.) and the desire to find common ground even in opposing points of view.
We can say that the Circle is a born psychologist. However, he is often a weak organizer - he lacks the "left hemisphere" skills of his "linear brothers" - the Triangle and the Square.
The main life values: serving people, happiness and well-being of the family, children, communication.
(slide 10)
pros
Minuses
High need for communication
Dependence public opinion
communication, accessibility
non-punctuality
benevolence
softness
caring
Undemanding
Devotion
obsession
Generous emotional sensitivity
talkativeness
Calmness and relaxation
Sentimentality
Non-conflict, the tendency to forgive
Compliance
ZIGZAG
This figure symbolizes creativity, if only because it is the most unique of the five figures and the only open figure. If you have firmly chosen the zigzag as the main shape, then you are most likely a true “right-brain” thinker, a dissident.
You, like your closest relative Krug, only to an even greater extent, are characterized by figurativeness, intuitiveness, integrativity, mosaicism. Strict, consistent deduction is not your style. Zigzag thought makes desperate jumps from "a" to "z", so many "left-brained" people find it difficult to understand Zigzags.
“Right hemispheric” thinking is not fixed on the details, therefore, by simplifying the picture of the world in some way, it allows you to build holistic, harmonious concepts and images, to see beauty. Zigzags usually have a developed aesthetic sense.
The dominant thinking style of the ZigZag is most often the synthetic style. Unlike Circles, Zigzags are not at all interested in consensus and achieve synthesis not by concessions, but rather by sharpening the conflict of ideas and building a new concept in which this conflict is resolved, “removed”. Moreover, using their natural wit, they can be very caustic, “opening their eyes” to others.
Zigzags simply cannot work in well-structured situations. They are annoyed by clear vertical and horizontal connections, strictly fixed responsibilities and permanent ways work. In their work they require independence from others and high level stimulation in the workplace. Then the ZigZag "comes to life" and begins to fulfill its main purpose - to generate new ideas and methods of work.
Zigzags are idealists, hence their traits such as impracticality and naivety originate.
Zigzag is the most excitable of the five patterns. They are unrestrained, very expressive, which, along with their eccentricity, often prevents them from putting their ideas into practice. In addition, they are not strong in working out specific details and are not too persistent in bringing things to the end (since with the loss of novelty, interest in the idea is also lost).
The main life values: freedom, creativity, change.
(slide 11)
pros
Minuses
Striving for novelty, creativity
disorganized, incoherent
Thirst for knowledge
inconstancy
Rebellious spirit
Individualism, insecurity
reverie
Disregard for laws, traditions
Future orientation
unrealistic
Enthusiasm
carelessness
expressiveness
Impulsiveness
Wit
Stinginess, causticity
(12 slide) "Pantomime - a figure in activity"
Leading. Now we invite you to express yourself. Using their Creative skills, using the characteristics of the figures, positive and negative qualities- imagine a pantomime. Depict the leading quality of your figure in the form of pantomime. (2 minutes). The rest of the participants must determine this quality.
Discussion.
What impression did this exercise make?
Was it hard to picture? What caused the difficulty?
Leading: Each of you, choosing this or that figure, has an irreplaceable, very important resource.
In fact, there are no bad or good qualities. There are situations in which some quality interferes, and there are situations in which the same quality helps. If we treat our features in this way, we can control their manifestation ourselves, instead of obeying them. And then we can say: "I use my quality, not the quality uses me." This is just the ability to think rationally.
By usingRATIONAL JUDGMENT we formPOSITIVE attitude towards life, allowing yourself to be the masters of your life.
IRRATIONAL JUDGMENTS On the contrary, they make us dependent on other people and circumstances, hinder the achievement of our goals, and lead to emotional problems. Figuratively, these thoughts can be called(slide 13) « MENTAL GARBAGE", which can be divided into four categories:
"WHO IS GUILTY?"
The essence of such an algorithm of thinking is to internally remove responsibility for what is happening. It is based on an unconscious self-prohibition on making mistakes, on possible own wrongness. It is important to maintain the image of one's own impeccability and "correctness".
"CATASTROPHE!"
Forecasting the most unfavorable scenarios for the development of the situation. Making an elephant out of a fly. Difficulty keeping up and good mood when the forecasts for the development of the situation are one worse than the other. The saddest thing is that these predictions often become reality.
“I/YOU/HE MUST!”
Deep conviction in truth and objectivity own ideas about the world. Imposing the chosen stereotype of actions on others and on oneself as the only possible one. A person ceases to be aware of the difference between his ideas about reality and the real living situation.
"ALWAYS LIKE THIS!"
The tendency to draw global conclusions from the results of particular situations (always so, all people are like that, I can never ... etc.). Thus, we form a subconscious attitude to the stereotypical reproduction of this situation and fix the background negative attitude towards it.
Leading. “Mental garbage” prevents us from thinking positively, and therefore personal growth. It is necessary to learn to think rationally, and the following algorithm will help us with this.
(slide 14) When a problem occurs, a person always has a choice: to leave everything as it is or to make changes.
ALGORITHM:
PROBLEM
Leave everything as it is Make changes
Change the circumstances in which the problem occurred
Change yourself (reactions, behavior, habits, attitudes, attitudes)
Change your attitude to circumstances, that is, accept them:
As a condition for something else - good
Like a lesson to be learned and something to learn that will be needed in the future
As an advance payment for something good that will happen in the future
Like a catalyst inside personal resources, personal development and opportunities
As something positive that is contained in what is so far perceived as negative
Leading: So there is always a choice. But not always a person can see something important and useful for himself in a problem. In fact, there are several tricks that help not only to see something useful even in difficult situations, but also to find a way out. They are called "POSITIVE THINKING FORMULA":(slide 15)
"Theatre in a Snuffbox". The ability to see the problem "from above" helps to reduce the exaggerated negative meaning of what is happening, the feeling of powerlessness. The problem is seen as a whole, it becomes clearer.
"The other side of the coin". The medal cannot be with only one side. Where there is bad, there must be good. This is the law of life, and no matter how we treat it, it works.
"Little bricks of the big wall." If we want to jump over a large wall, then most likely we will break, and the wall will remain in place. If every day we separate a small brick from the wall, after a while we will see that there will be no trace left of the wall. What are the first three bricks you can take out of this wall?
"Trouble as a Friend" , "Advice to a Friend" .
Exercise "The other side of the coin."
Leading: Let's try to work with one of these formulas "The other side of the coin." You need to split into pairs. First one voices their problem or difficult situation to another, and the other must find the positive. Then you need to switch roles. (2-3 minutes)
Discussion: Did the formula help you? Were you able to look at the problem from a different angle? If it didn’t work right away, you can try again or turn to another formula. The main thing is that there is always a way out.
SELF-ESTEEM
Leading: Positive thinking leads to the formation of adequate self-esteem. A person with inadequate, excessively high or low self-esteem, is not able to adequately perceive the world correctly assess the circumstances. Such a person is not able to make the right decisions.(slides 16, 17, 18)
Self-esteem - this is a person's attitude to himself and to his actions, based on his own experience and on the opinion of others about this person.
Self-esteem level
Adequate
Overpriced
understated
Confidence
Self-confident, calm, open-minded
Arrogant, self-confident, believes that others are not able to fully understand him
Insecure, indecisive, distrustful
Attitude towards weaknesses and strengths
He sees both positive and negative aspects both in himself and in others.
He sees mainly advantages in his behavior and disadvantages in the behavior of others.
Sees mostly his faults, suffers from it
Attitude towards criticism
Ability to take criticism and strive to improve
Does not accept criticism, believes that those who criticize him are not able to understand
Responds badly to criticism
Orientation
Focused on knowledge, action and communication, active, purposeful
Aimed at solving his problems, at achieving a position corresponding to his level
Aimed at masking his shortcomings, so that others do not notice that he is worse than them
Interaction
Can objectively assess situations, take into account the opinions of others
Inability to accept a different point of view and understand others
Dependent on the opinions of others, tries to "be like everyone else", focuses on the position of the majority
Behavior
Knows how to empathize, has many friends, is conducive to communication
Communicates until he loses interest in the partner (or the partner does not lose interest in him)
Has communication problems. Two behaviors:
1) depression, loneliness and isolation, tries not to stand out and not show himself ("I'm bad, but others are good");
2) aggression. draws attention to himself, behaves provocatively, tries to suppress and humiliate others (“I am bad, and others are even worse than me)
Test "Self-assessment"
Do you often think about what others think of you?
Yes
Sometimes
Never
How do you feel when you compare yourself to a more successful person?
Irritation
A little dissatisfaction
Peace and joy for him
Do you think you have achieved what you wanted to achieve today?
Yes
Not really
Hardly ever
How often do you call yourself a loser?
Yes
Sometimes
Never
Who do you usually blame for your failures?
surrounding
It all depends on the circumstances
Myself
Can you easily change your opinion of yourself under the influence of others?
Yes
Sometimes
No
Results processing:
2 points
1 point
0 points
(slide 19)
8-12 points. Low self-esteem. You depend on the opinions of others. You listen to them too much. Any casually thrown word can knock you off balance for a long time. You have too much suspiciousness and anxiety. Low self-esteem hinders successful development personality. A person who does not believe in himself doubts everything, looks to the future without optimism, carries a lot of complexes.
8-4 points. Average self-esteem. You are adequate. Adequate self-esteem encourages a person to be active, aimed at the formation of those qualities that are not well developed, to get rid of shortcomings.
4-0 points. High self-esteem (turning into overestimated). You will not be touched by anything but underestimation. By cutting off negative information, you deprive yourself of positive information. This is the other side of the first type, you cannot redefine yourself. If a person of the first type is too flexible, then you are the exact opposite, you cannot be reached. As a result, mistakes and shortcomings in behavior can turn into habits that will be very difficult to get rid of.
Leading: To reduce high self-esteem, you need to be critical of yourself, but in order to. To improve it, I offer you some very effective tips.
(slide 20) How to increase self-esteem and self-confidence? Here are 12 tips to help you do just that:
Leading:
Leading: One of the important personal resources is creative thinking. To manifest this resource, I suggest that you do the following exercise.
Exercise "How can I be interesting (interesting)?"
Leading: I suggest you break into 3 groups and take a description of one of the situations. Participants take turns taking cards and reading the text. It is necessary to determine whether there are unexpected moves and decisions in the “stores of experience and personality” that could work in this situation. The first right to answer belongs to the one who read the card, then everyone speaks. Use your creative resource to solve situations:
Examples of situations that can be written on cards:
“Unexpectedly, in the middle of the working day, it turned out that a colleague had a birthday. I need to find a gift ASAP. Do you have something original for this occasion?”
“You and your children went on a trip. Suddenly, in the late afternoon, the lights in the hotel and the surrounding streets went out for several hours. Do you have "preparations" for this case? How could you be interesting to children?
"Appointed holiday concert, several numbers from teachers are expected. Suddenly, all engaged educators-artists fall ill! How can you be interesting in such a situation?
Leading: Please note that at the beginning of the training we said that we would dedicate it to updating our internal resources. Take mock-ups of your little people, write down those qualities that you have realized and emphasized their importance for personal growth.
Stage 3 is the final one.
(Slide 21) Continue the sentence “An important resource for me is…”
Questionnaire
Please answer a few questions about the last lesson
Circle the rating on the 10-point scale that corresponds to your opinion.
How satisfied are you overall?
How useful do you think this activity is for you?
Not at all 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 Very satisfied
Will you apply the experience (knowledge) gained in life situations?
Not at all 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 Definitely will
Would you recommend your friends and acquaintances to participate in this training session if it is held again?
No way 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 I will definitely
Your suggestions and wishes.
WISHES TO PARTICIPANTS: ( slide 22)
Personal growth, no matter how you call it - self-actualization or forward movement - is the main driving force life. The main thing is not to stand still, learn, grow, let your personality develop. After all, in this case not moving forward is the same as moving backward.
COURAGE - change what you can change in yourself.
PATIENCE - accept what you can't change.
MIND - to distinguish one from the other.
12 tips to help boost self-esteem and self-confidence:
1. Stop comparing yourself to other people. There will always be people who have more of something than you, and there are people who have less than you. If you make comparisons, you will always have too many opponents or opponents in front of you that you cannot surpass.
2. Stop scolding and blaming yourself. You will not be able to develop a high level of self-esteem if you repeat negative statements about yourself and your abilities. Do you talk about your appearance, your career, relationships, financial situation, or any other aspect of your life, avoid self-deprecating comments. Self-esteem correction is directly related to your statements about yourself.
3. Accept all compliments and congratulations in return "thank you." When you respond to a compliment with something like “yes, nothing special,” you are rejecting the compliment and simultaneously sending yourself the message that you are not worthy of praise, building low self-esteem. Therefore, accept praise without belittling your dignity.
4. Use (affirmations) to boost your self-esteem. Put on a commonly used item, such as a plastic card or wallet, a statement such as "I love and accept myself" or "I attractive woman And I deserve the best in life." May this affirmation be with you always. Repeat the affirmation several times throughout the day, especially before going to bed and after you wake up. Whenever you repeat an affirmation, feel positive emotions regarding affirmations. Thus, the impact effect will be greatly enhanced.
5. Use self-esteem workshops, books, audio and video recordings. Any information you allow into your mind takes root there and influences your behavior. Dominant information influences your actions in a dominant way. If you watch or read a crime chronicle in the newspapers, most likely your mood will be inclined towards a cynical and pessimistic side. In the same way, if you read books or listen to programs that are positive in nature and capable of boosting self-esteem, you will acquire qualities from them.
6. Try to communicate with positive and confident people who are ready to support you. When you are surrounded by negative people who constantly suppress you and your ideas, your self-esteem goes down. On the other hand, when you are accepted and encouraged, you feel better and your self-esteem grows.
7. Make a list of your past accomplishments. It doesn't have to be something monumental. The list may include small wins, such as learning to snowboard, getting a driver's license, hitting the gym regularly, etc. Review this list regularly. As you read your achievements, try to close your eyes and feel the satisfaction and joy you once experienced again.
8. Make a list of your positive qualities. Are you honest? Selfless? Helpful to others? Creative? Be kind to yourself and write down at least 20 of your positive qualities. As with the previous list, it is important to review this list often. Many people focus on their shortcomings, reinforcing their low self-esteem there, and then wonder why everything in their life is not as good as they would like. Start focusing on your strengths and you will be much more likely to achieve what you want.
9. Start giving more to others. I'm not talking about money. This refers to giving of yourself in the form of deeds by which you can help others or positively encourage others. When you do something for others, you begin to feel like a more valuable individual, and your self-esteem and mood increase.
10. Try to do what you enjoy. It's hard to feel positive about yourself if your days are spent at a job you despise. Self-esteem flourishes when you are busy with work or any other vigorous activity that brings you pleasure and makes you feel more valued. Even if your work does not suit you completely, you can devote free time some hobbies that bring you joy.
11. Be true to yourself. Live your own life. You will never respect yourself if you don't spend your life the way you want to spend it. If you make decisions based on the approval of your friends and family, you are not true to yourself and will have low self-esteem.
12. Take action! You will not be able to develop a high level of self-esteem if you sit still and do not accept the challenges that arise in front of you. When you act, regardless of the result, your sense of self-esteem grows, you feel more pleasant feelings about yourself. When you procrastinate due to fear or some other anxiety, you will only feel upset and sad feelings, which, of course, will lead to a decrease in self-esteem.
You are a unique person, with great opportunities, with great potential. As your self-esteem grows, your true abilities will unfold. You will begin to take more risks and not be afraid of rejection; you will not be guided by the approval of other people; your relationships will be much more beneficial both for you and for others; you will do what brings you joy and satisfaction. Most importantly, high self-esteem will bring you peace of mind and you will truly appreciate yourself.
